Quote From: outofmymndThanks so much Indian,
I am grateful for the response, and I do get the lying part. I was an addict too....been "clean" for about 16 years. Unfortunately, this girl's story is the truth. She has nobody, her mother and mother's boyfriend know she is on something, but when they are home (which is rarely) they are drunk themselves. Her bio father was the one that abused her as a child, so he is out of the question. She has asked to talk to my daughter, and luckily my daughter is the ONLY friend she has that doesn't do drugs, and she will not get high or be high around her.......she has a warped sense of respect, but right now that works. I have talked to my daughter about contacting Children's Aid, but that is a hard option. I have also thought about going to her school, but that is a waiting game as they are still on Christmas vacation. My daughter has talked to her, quite openly, and it looks as if she is going to reach out.......once this talk takes place, that will be my deciding factor, as I am really scared about waiting too long, I know what the outcome will be.
Thanks again for your help, I forget sometimes how to think like her, I am too busy trying to "save" her.
Tammy
Well, she sure is lucky (although that might seem like a strange word) to have you and your daughter!
I guess my only remaining concern is your own daughter. At 16, this is a lot to handle, so hopefully the whole thing can be steered towards getting some professionals involved in the girl's care. It does sound like she has other problems besides the drugs, and you and your daughter need to spread some of the worry around a bit.
In fact, your daughter (and you, too, for that matter) might benefit from Al Anon or Al a Teen. Especially in your daughter's case, the support there might be really helpful for her, even if she's not technically a "family member".
I really wish you the best with this. If you get a chance, let us know how it goes!
