Deep down, I couldn't agree with you more. I don't judge people on where they live, how they "look", etc. I am however "skeptical" of people who make the decision to NOT do anything to roll with the punches, change with the times or (quote, unquote) "improve" themselves. I love my in-laws and just about everyone I know. I am simply saying that it's been my experience that many who claim to "want" to change (certain aspects of their lives, personalities, etc) really DON'T. If they really DID, they WOULD or at least try to. So, if someone (anyone, NOT my in-laws) complains about, for instance, NOT having a job, but doesn't by the paper, go on-line, revamp their resume, etc. It's hard to continue to "feel bad" for their situation when it seems or may be apparent they are making not effort (including maybe even going back to school) to help themselves.
