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July 24, 2005, 12:25 am PDT

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Three years ago my Dad was diagnosed with Myleodysplasia a incurable blood disease, also known as pre-Leukemia. We were all devastated as he was such a strong healthy stable force in our family. I have never come to terms with his illness, and for the past 3 years have been on such a roller coaster of emotions....Elated when he was doing well to being heartbroken when he wasn't. On June 23rd, my Dad peacefully passed away in his bed at home. I am so absolutely devastated by this, and have no idea how to deal with him being gone. No matter how old you are, I am in my late 30's and the mother of two school aged children.....Your parents are still your parents, and I really miss my Dad so much. How do you ever overcome such a loss???
My dad died a year ago with Hep C . He had a blood tranfusion many years ago when they didnt screen the blood. I'm in my late 30's to. Though my dad was never around much growing up. Before he died he spent the last 3years making it up and became a father I craved for all my life. I miss him and I know how hard it is for you. I'm thankful that he was a part of my life and my childrens lives for even just for a short time. I think in time the pain will ease up but just wanted you to know that I know how you are feeling and you arent alone.
 
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February 27, 2006, 10:22 pm PST

loosing my family

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Three years ago my Dad was diagnosed with Myleodysplasia a incurable blood disease, also known as pre-Leukemia.  We were all devastated as he was such a strong healthy stable force in our family. I have never come to terms with his illness, and for the past 3 years have been on such a roller coaster of emotions....Elated when he was doing well to being heartbroken when he wasn't.  On June 23rd, my Dad peacefully passed away in his bed at home.  I am so absolutely devastated by this, and have no idea how to deal with him being gone.  No matter how old you are, I am in my late 30's and the mother of two school aged children.....Your parents are still your parents, and I really miss my Dad so much.   How do you ever overcome such a loss???
Hi my name is Laurie, and i have lost three people in my life that i loved very much,my grandmother, then my mother, and then my father, he passed away at my home, and for all three of them i was always there everyday,i was looking after my grandmother when she passed and after that my mother was in a depression so i was there again to take care of her, while my father was working,  then  she passed away , so i stayed with my father for a month because not only did he loose his wife but he lost his job and home all in a weeks time, i'm having a very hard time getting over it, i just don't know how?                                                                  Laurie from Barrie Ontario
 
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August 11, 2006, 11:55 am PDT

I FEEL YOUR PAIN

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Three years ago my Dad was diagnosed with Myleodysplasia a incurable blood disease, also known as pre-Leukemia.  We were all devastated as he was such a strong healthy stable force in our family. I have never come to terms with his illness, and for the past 3 years have been on such a roller coaster of emotions....Elated when he was doing well to being heartbroken when he wasn't.  On June 23rd, my Dad peacefully passed away in his bed at home.  I am so absolutely devastated by this, and have no idea how to deal with him being gone.  No matter how old you are, I am in my late 30's and the mother of two school aged children.....Your parents are still your parents, and I really miss my Dad so much.   How do you ever overcome such a loss???

I KNOW THE PAIN I LOST MY MOTHER 6 YRS AGO ON NOV.9 WE BURIED HER ON NOV. THE 11TH UNKNOWNED TO ME THAT 6 YRS. LATER I WOULD BE BURERING  MY FATHER ON THE SAME DAY HE HAD DRANK HIMSELF TO DEATH BY GRIEVING OVER HIS WIFE MY STEP MOTHER SHE DIED OF CANCER JUST 2 YRS,PREV.AFTER HER AND MY MOM MY STEP DAD DIED OF CANCER.SO DEALING WITH DEATH IS BEEN HARD YOU JUST AHVE TO TAKE IT DAY BY DAY AND REMEMBER THE GOOD TIMES .AND THE SMELL MY DAD WAS A COON ASS AND LOVED TO COOK MY MOM TO THE GOOD THING IS THEY PASSED THAT DOWN TO ME SO NOW WHEN I COOK SOMETHING SOECIAL I ALWAYS REMEMBER THEM LIKE ON THANKSGIVING MY MOM WOULD ALWAYS MAKE ME CUT THE ONIONS AND NAtrally tears start she would laugh and before the onion was fully cut up she would have tears 2 then we would just laugh and ask each other why r u crying ,stuff like that helps .for me but it get better with time..

 
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February 19, 2007, 1:56 pm PST

I know how you feel!

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Three years ago my Dad was diagnosed with Myleodysplasia a incurable blood disease, also known as pre-Leukemia.  We were all devastated as he was such a strong healthy stable force in our family. I have never come to terms with his illness, and for the past 3 years have been on such a roller coaster of emotions....Elated when he was doing well to being heartbroken when he wasn't.  On June 23rd, my Dad peacefully passed away in his bed at home.  I am so absolutely devastated by this, and have no idea how to deal with him being gone.  No matter how old you are, I am in my late 30's and the mother of two school aged children.....Your parents are still your parents, and I really miss my Dad so much.   How do you ever overcome such a loss???

My dad past away 4 years ago and I'm still lost with out him.It crushed our family when he past. It still feels like yestarday. My mom still hasn't recoverd, sometimes I think she never will. I'm hopeful that we all will. My 2 sons are doing better then my mom and I are. My dads family has had a very hard time with loosing him. My dad was 1 of 10 children. By the way I'm 39 years old. I don't think it makes a difference how old you are when a parent dies. 

 
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January 23, 2008, 1:54 am PST

loss of my dad

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Three years ago my Dad was diagnosed with Myleodysplasia a incurable blood disease, also known as pre-Leukemia.  We were all devastated as he was such a strong healthy stable force in our family. I have never come to terms with his illness, and for the past 3 years have been on such a roller coaster of emotions....Elated when he was doing well to being heartbroken when he wasn't.  On June 23rd, my Dad peacefully passed away in his bed at home.  I am so absolutely devastated by this, and have no idea how to deal with him being gone.  No matter how old you are, I am in my late 30's and the mother of two school aged children.....Your parents are still your parents, and I really miss my Dad so much.   How do you ever overcome such a loss???
 hello..... first , i would like to say that i am truly sorry for the loss of your dad....i also have lost my dad.  my dad  was diagnosed with lung cancer in jan. 2007 and lost his battle in dec. 2007. i too am in my 30's and have absolutely no clue as to how i should deal with him not being a part of my life. i am hoping that since you have had some time  to cope somewhat with losing your dad that you might be able to give me some advice and comfort. i am in pain everyday. i miss my dad so much that theres days that i just dont think i can go on. i have faith in GOD and thought it would be a little less painful since i know where my dad has gone. however, my heart hurts so much that i just cry everyday and miss him more and more each day. up until the last two days before his death, the oncologist told us that there was still a chance he would beat this as long as his platelets would stabalize. his spine had cancer cells that were causing extreme pain every minute that passed. he had to be injected with so much morphine that he had shortness of breath. within 2 days he was no longer able to breath on his own and passed away slowly. i cant understand how we went from him being in my house talking to us to dying in the hospital.if you can please help me with some advice i would gladly listen. thank you.
 


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