Quote From: nikfablivI am really worried when I see how Divirces and custody battles are influencing the children. We, adults tend to think more about ourselves than to think of the best for our children. Sometimes we are angry and we sometimes also have reason to worry, and that is when I believe that we forget to seek solutions. we are getting blind and the only right way is ours.
Think of the children first.
The ones who is suffering the most is the children, let us act like grown ups and get together and find solutions that will help the children in an, for them already bad situation! :o)
"The ones who is suffering the most is the children" I am so tired of hearing people say this, in my case and in others I personally know of, IF the father were given custody in all divorces, in the first place (they are much more financially able to support the children, and much more open to visitation than spiteful females) plus, there would be little if NO divorce. Fathers are ALWAYS portrayed as the villain (abusive, angry, uncaring, lazy, I've heard them all) but the good ones pay their support, shut up, and sit down, and take it like a man. Its some wonder men try so hard to get out of paying support!
I know much of the society in general, and all of the courts, do not believe in Biblical examples; (except in the case of murder or thievery) but Biblically, the children were always given to the father who could support them. Antiquated though it seem , if we followed this example, women will not give up their kids for such trivial matters as "he's just not romantic enough" or "he's not the man I married". But the court systems in our country have a vested interest in keeping children on welfare, WIC, child support (many states collect and dole out support through garnishment now, interest free too, and its usually given to the ex late), school funding, etc. So do you really think a government agency wants to stop getting tax and income from big brother by abusing suffering kids? Kids will always suffer! Period! Especially when TV personalities continue administrating pablum and anesthesia to the public to continue this shameful trend.
