Quote From: isewforyouThis guy keeps coming back. I let him sleep on the couch, and am so tired of the messes and the snoring. He drags stuff from dumpsters thinking he is doing me a favor in order to let him stay. I have thrown all of the stuff right back into the dumpster! He leaves to visit family, but comes right back assuming he can stay.
He is scared of snakes, should I get a pet snake? (But I hate them too!)
If I ask him to stay away, he gets upset, and I'm afraid he will retaliate. Help!
Signed,
I'm too nice.
This is incredible! I have the same problem. We could be writing about the same guy! Mine is my exhusband! Now keep in mind we have been divorced for over 15 years and he financially has no hold on me (we don't own property together etc.). The only thing we really have the same interest in is our 18 year old son.
His house burnt down almost three years ago. He was left with nothing except the clothes on his back and his dog and cat. The original deal was to allow him to stay here until he could get another apartment (maybe 6 weeks or so tops).
He stays drunk a lot, works when he feels like it. Always picks fights with our son (mysteriously these fights always happen after I go to bed). The cops have been here many, many times over the past three years. Life with him around is constant drama. Of course he never pays rent or entertains the thought of cleaning or buying groceries. He drags stuff out of the dumpster and brings it home. I generally just lug it back to the dumpster. Forget about alcohol! He consumes it like water!
We finally managed to throw he and his stuff out about three months ago. I boxed everything up myself and dropped it off at a house where he was renovating. He left town and got a job about 70 miles away. You could feel the peace that fell over this house.
He came back to town for Christmas and said he would be going home the day after Christmas. Every day he says is his last day in town. Then he stayed for New Years. It is almost MLK day he he is still here.
When we ask him to stay away he gets mad but then forgets all about it. Experience has taught me that the best way to get rid of him is to just call the cops and make a scene. I am gearing up to do that again now.
But my question is "how can I do this and make it the last time?" We don't want to come home and find this guy on our door step again and again. I am tired of constantly having to fend this character off!
I agree with your statement about fear of retaliation.
