Quote From: excel34I am surprised that Dr. Phil did not call Tiffany (first couple-exwife) out on her lying about the son being there when the dad came. It was obvious to me that if she lied about something that simple, she lies often or exagerates other things. I agree with the new wife stepping out and the biological parents parenting.
The second couple with the "angry" ex-husband and the mother not allowing him visitation with their 7 year old daughter. I wanted the fact that she knew he was angry, in and out of prison, using methamphetamines, drinking, had abusive behavior towards her, and was unstable prior to marrying him and getting pregnany, but she united with him anyway. That speaks volumes about her to me and if she has not dealt with what's lacking in her she'll choose another man like Chris. She spoke all about the bad he'd done, but accepted no responsibility for choosing to marry him knowing how he was or what his potential was. I'm sorry, but in dealing with children in abusive homes and finding one parent using meth, it's more likely than not that the other is indulging or has indulged. She was shaking and stated she was afraid, but yet she was constantly attacking the man over and over again. I admit there should be no unsupervised visitation between he and the 7 year old daughter, but the mother needs to undergo therapy herself, as to assist her in choosing a better man from here on out.
That was great, and I also think it points to one of the big lessons in all this that never gets spoken of: Adults (male and female) need to do a much better job in picking the person who will be the other biological parent of their child. This is by far the biggest decision anyone will ever make on behalf of their child, yet I rarely hear it brought up as an issue that needs to be addressed.
I do have sympathy for a lot of what I'm reading in this thread, but there's also no denying that there's a lot of stupid choices being made out there. For example, if a man is complaining about his ex taking up with a sex offender, he's correct in being worried, but he's also saying something about the woman he chose to be the mother of his child.
I realize we're dealing with all the gray areas of human emotions, but I do wish this wasn't always swept under the rug. It is, after all, where every one of these messy situations begins..
