Quote From: mistycYou are absolutely correct babies are not an accesory and they certainly aren't cute and sweet smelling all the time. I got the "talk" for years from well meaning friends and family. But I waited until I was ready and that didn't happen until I was 35. I am due any day now!!!!
I have so much more to offer my baby now and I am old enough not to resent her for "holding me back". I will never have to wonder about the road not traveled, because I traveled them all, I partied and had a great time. But I was finally ready to settle down, get married and have children.
Don't have a baby one second before you are ready.
I have had a baby really young life, and now had one later when I am 33 and settled. It is SO much better now that I am older. I have so much more patience! I don't worry about paying the light bill and the rent. I can enjoy my children. It is SO important to have fun when you are in your teens and twenties- I really struggled with that part of having a baby at age 19. My experience is individual and there were certain factors that had nothing to do with my age, but it had alot to do with it. There are many young moms on these boards feeling very defensive, but they need to realize that MANY- no all of course- young parents face certain issues. The bottom line- THERE IS NO NEED TO RUSH INTO HAVING BABIES!!! Karen
