Replies to 'Childhood Sexual Abuse Support'

I hear you and I am somewhat like you.  You know yourself that you are not to blame.  You know that it is your parents/family that are to blame and they were the ones that screwed up.  You did survive throught that hell and you are better than them in so many ways.  You did not hurt your kids.  They did.  Try not to give them the power to make you feel like that little girl over & over.  I struggle with this too so I know it's not easy.  It is much easier for me to give out advice rather than help myself, but i am slowly trying to make changes too.  Have some way to readjust reality when you're in contact with them.  I mean remind yourself that they can try to crush you, but expect that from the start and be prepared.  You know this is the way they operate and you know that they are wrong.  Is there something that you can do remind yourself that you are the good one and the strong one?  Avoidance is good too.  We all have to accept and believe that the abuse was not our fault.  The adult had the power and control and should have known better.  Stop trying to change your family and put more energy into other positive human relationships.   

I have to take my own advice too. :)