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January 12, 2006, 7:13 am PST

01/12 Racism Experiment

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i am 21 years old and i have a 1 years old son that is mixed woth black and white.  i the mother is white.  i live in alabama which is known or said to be on of the most racist states.   i love my son and i also love his father but i am worried that biracial children have it hard growing up, to even filing out paperwork when they get old enough.   So is it really that hard for a biracial child?  i think ithe hardest will be for a black/white child and i say this because my aunt is married to a spanish man and so her sons are spanish/white, but yet my grandparents(her parents) disowned me because my child is black.  do i care?  no.  my child is the most precious thing ever.  but like i said i would like  different viewpoints on this subject.
I don't really know about this to much for I am white. But my family is in kinda the same situation. My husbands sister has been dating this guy - hes mixed with black and german- hes the sweetest thing, he treats her  like gold, just a little jealousy, (like most guys) but for the most part they say their in love (she 21 and he 25) so they know some what about love. But they just came out with it in the open about 2mon ago, but have really been daing for almost 1yr now. My husbands family including him were so mad at her for dting him - not to mention she was telling everybody they were just friends, then moves in with each other (still saying they were just friends) well needless to say people arn't stupid. They figured it out. So she didn't talk to them and they didn't really talk to her, except her sisters and mom. But she wasn't happy about it ither. But my husband hated it, we finally met him and now my husband loves him. Also, now shes pregnant. So shes having a bi-racial baby. Not to many people in the family knows (on her dad side) even though they like the guy.But for your questions, I've heard on TV biracial kids saying that its so hard, filling out them papers, wondering who they are. But its there choice just teach him that color isn't the issue its who he is, and who he wants to be. Guide him in the right direction and it;ll alwork out. He gets to choose what to think about his race. Hes his own person, hes gonna make his own mistakes, thats where youas a parent come in and let him know what is right and wrong and what the consiquinces are.You can just tell him hes him and nobody else, don't try to be like nobody else except him. Life his life like he wants to not by what othe people say about him. Not to much help but your in a tough situation and I've thought about because my husbands sister is expecting and shll be going through the sme thing.
 
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January 12, 2006, 9:18 am PST

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i am 21 years old and i have a 1 years old son that is mixed woth black and white.  i the mother is white.  i live in alabama which is known or said to be on of the most racist states.   i love my son and i also love his father but i am worried that biracial children have it hard growing up, to even filing out paperwork when they get old enough.   So is it really that hard for a biracial child?  i think ithe hardest will be for a black/white child and i say this because my aunt is married to a spanish man and so her sons are spanish/white, but yet my grandparents(her parents) disowned me because my child is black.  do i care?  no.  my child is the most precious thing ever.  but like i said i would like  different viewpoints on this subject.

I am a native of Mobile AL and I dont think my home state is any more racist than any other.  Shortly before I started school my Dad was severly injured in an industrial accident.  My Mom went to work to support the family while my Dad was down.  My Mom worked with a black lady and she knew Mama was having a very hard time, and that we absolutely had  no money for school clothes. 

This nice lady, of her own accord, gave my Mama several new dresses that her in laws had bought for her daughter so I didn't have to go to school looking like "second hand Rose". 

My Mom and this lady remain friends to this day, 30 years later. 

I feel that most of the "racism" you think you are experiencing is a figment of your imagination.  People like you just keep perpetuating the myth that the south is still full of  biggots and hate mongers. 

For the record I was born in the south and resided here my whole life and we are no different than anyone else period. 

 
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January 14, 2006, 7:04 am PST

Maybe The Doctor will do A follow up Show,You can be on.

Quote From: kendellsma

i am 21 years old and i have a 1 years old son that is mixed woth black and white.  i the mother is white.  i live in alabama which is known or said to be on of the most racist states.   i love my son and i also love his father but i am worried that biracial children have it hard growing up, to even filing out paperwork when they get old enough.   So is it really that hard for a biracial child?  i think ithe hardest will be for a black/white child and i say this because my aunt is married to a spanish man and so her sons are spanish/white, but yet my grandparents(her parents) disowned me because my child is black.  do i care?  no.  my child is the most precious thing ever.  but like i said i would like  different viewpoints on this subject.

I know you hurt, and in pain, But You have to show your son,On how you respond to it. You both love Your son,   

Kids pick up real quick.On Behavior 

  

You might be able to find other people, that  will show him love.. 

  

Take care,  John 

 


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