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January 11, 2006, 7:48 am PST

You truly are a wonderful person

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My daughters life is the same as the lady on the show today. We have tried to help her to no avail. We have not seen her in over a year and a half,,she calls ,usually stoned. She is living,sometimes homeless with a man she met when we sent her to rehab over 5 years ago,,she is still married to another man. I am raising 3 of her children,another grandma is raising 3 more she has had in the last 5 years.As a mother ,I can not express all my feelings and concerns,,the children now are my priority that I am raising.,their ages are 5, 11, and 15. Their emotions of being embarrassed,sad,mad,confused,etc. are something we deal with everyday,,and their are situations in their lives I dont have time to even get into.My husband and I have given our lives to the 3 children we are raising,our time,our love,our energy,our finicial stability,etc.,but we love them and cant imagine our lives without them,my husband and I never have time for each other,,but you know the worst thing is laying down at night in my bed,in my house,with my stomach full,not knowing where my daughter is,is she stoned?is she hungry?does she have a bed to lie in tonight?She too, I feel will die soon if she doesnt get help,,but everything we try to help with,she declines,,,

I've never in my life responded to anything on a message board, but after reading your letter I felt compelled. This show needs to be on the Dr. Phil show, I hope he reads this letter and helps you and your family. I had chills after reading your letter. You and your husband are amazing, wonderful human beings. This is your time to be grandparents one would think, you did your job raising children, but where would these children be without you? 

I'm a 32 year old stay at home mom, and to be honest just can't understand how people like your daughter abonded there children and choose drugs and booze over there own flesh and blood. However, I've never had an addiction like this so it's not for me to judge. 

I hope a miracle happens and your daughter wakes up from this soon and gets the help she needs. 

God bless you and your husband and those 3 kids! 

 
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January 11, 2006, 7:15 pm PST

ToughLove

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My daughters life is the same as the lady on the show today. We have tried to help her to no avail. We have not seen her in over a year and a half,,she calls ,usually stoned. She is living,sometimes homeless with a man she met when we sent her to rehab over 5 years ago,,she is still married to another man. I am raising 3 of her children,another grandma is raising 3 more she has had in the last 5 years.As a mother ,I can not express all my feelings and concerns,,the children now are my priority that I am raising.,their ages are 5, 11, and 15. Their emotions of being embarrassed,sad,mad,confused,etc. are something we deal with everyday,,and their are situations in their lives I dont have time to even get into.My husband and I have given our lives to the 3 children we are raising,our time,our love,our energy,our finicial stability,etc.,but we love them and cant imagine our lives without them,my husband and I never have time for each other,,but you know the worst thing is laying down at night in my bed,in my house,with my stomach full,not knowing where my daughter is,is she stoned?is she hungry?does she have a bed to lie in tonight?She too, I feel will die soon if she doesnt get help,,but everything we try to help with,she declines,,,
My heart goes out to you.However; your daughter is grown,she has made her choices.She has chosen this life and now you must let her suffer the consequences.My mother was an alcholic and I lived that life.After my first divorce I too turned to alchol.I made my choices and I had to accept the responsibility for my actions.I am not proud of my past but I can tell you I've learned from my mistakes.Your daughter truely needs help but she has to be willing to accept it.You cannot force this on her,she will just keep pushing you away.Let her know you're there for her and walk away.For her survival you cannot push.As far as the children,they are more understanding than you can imagine.They will be ok,they have wonderful grandparents and I know they know that.Just continue to give them support and let them know you love them and let them know their mom loves them but right now she has to take care of herself before she can take care of them.If you need to talk email me,I'm a great listener.
 


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