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January 12, 2006, 7:37 am PST
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Quote From: adrianavI totally agree with your guest that does not want to define herself as being from one race or another.
I'm Mexican and I went to the American School in Mexico City, a true bilingual and bicultural school. Many nationalities, races, and creeds have been always represented in the school and one thing no one cared about was about which race one belonged to. We read and studied about Native Americans and Afro Americans through the mid 50's and 60's. Race was part of the curricula but not an issue.
I have always been amazed the importance race is given to in the U.S. as a means of defining people. I think that by the 21st century people's identity should not be defined by race, if that is kept on there is no way to end racial discrimination. And yes, we have discrimination in Mexico, but it is not defined by race. We all have to be proud of our heritage, but not defined by race. If you could meet me I would be defined as Caucasian, but by being Mexican I know I must have Indian blood, and I'm proud of it, but that in no way defines me.
I just wish that one day people would stop defining each other by which race they belong. Does it make me a bad person when I can not except the fact that my 24 yr old daughter is living with a black man? My Daughter and Granddaughter are living with a black man. Do I object to this? ABSOLUTELY with out a doubt. I do not dis like blacks I just don't believe that whites and blacks should mix. A year ago my daughter was living with me and became pregnant by a black guy, needless to say she had to move out, I made it clear that there would be no way that I would ever except that child as my grand child, My daughter terminated the pregnancy, and the black guy was out of the picture, he actually wanted the pregnancy terminated but wanted me to pay for it, I refused, it wasn't my problem. My daughter has since moved on and now is living with another black guy. My family and I have pretty much cut her out of our lives, she can come visit but the guy is not allowed to come to our home, And they are not included in any family functions, She chose to spend Christmas with him instead of her family. He may be a nice guy, but I just can not except the fact that he is black and that they have some sort of a relationship whatever that may be. The worst thought that crosses my mind is the fact that my granddaughter could end up calling this man DAD, the fear is that kids are cruel and what will happen when she goes to school and the other kids discover that she calls a black guy DAD? I just don't know... I have told my husband over and over again that I feel guilty for the way that I feel, but I just can not get past it.
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