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January 15, 2006, 8:57 am PST
 Quote From: lovingone I have never had the misfortune ( I guess, lol) of being able to hear neighbors have sex but I understand your point ,irony, sarcasm, and all. I'm assuming that you do want to have a partner and a great relationship someday right?
Well I know how it can be. You try to have a fulfilling life even if you are single. You do things like sing in choirs. If you are religious you try to do what you are supposed to do according to your religion and also try to have faith that you will have someone special some day. You rely on your religion for strength in the tough times. Then WHAM! Something happens to cause you to come crashing down! You pass a bridal shop. You meet a cool guy then find out he's married. ANOTHER one of your friends gets married. You have a bad first date. And hey, sometimes you even overhear a woman enjoying great sex while you are in your bed by yourself!
It can be hard to keep your head up. I know it is for me sometimes. I was just thinking to myself "How do nuns do it?!" But then I remembered, they don't EXPECT to have a love life as long as they keep their careers. Silly me!
But I think the best thing you can do if you don't want to be single is be honest with yourself. If you go over to the "love being single" board I think you would find a lot of very suspiciously "happy" posts. There is nothing wrong with needing someone, or admiting to as much. You don't have to show to the world that you are desperate. But at least be honest with yourself. That's the only way you can fight for what you want. I don't really feel desparate! Frustrated w/the couple above me??? You bet. They probably don't know I can hear them! Sorry if I came off that way. I just thought maybe another single person would have a suggestion other than complaining to the front office. I am honest with myself. I would rather be single for the rest of my life than be w/someone and be unhappy. I don't sing because I'm single.....................I sing because music is my passion. It's a love that I can rely on forever. I'm so blessed. I get to teach music every day to little loving children and see their eyes light up and their faces smile and laugh. It's like getting paid to play! I don't have to have someone in my life. It's like dessert. I don't have to have it. But sometimes, I just would like to have dessert! I don't get upset when I pass a bridal shop. I had a big beautiful wedding! I don't need another one. Yes, I wish the big beautiful wedding had been w/the right person, but it wasn't so.................move on! I have! When my friends get married............I'm usually the singer/bridesmaid/MOH or all of the above. I always pray my friends find someone before I do because I don't want them to feel the way you decribed in your post. I have a wonderful loving family. We love to be together any time we can. We always have a good time. I have great friends. I have a wonderful job. I have the cutest cat. He makes me laugh every day! I have great co-workers and a great boss. I live in a great apt complex w/a beautiful pool and workout area. I go to a great church. I tell God most every day that my life is great and if I never meet any one else again.......................that's ok. I don't EXPECT to be w/a partner! And it's too late to become a nun! ;) I told this same story that's in my post to some single friends of mine and they thought it was hilarious. They got a real laugh at it! I guess it just didn't come off that way in writing. If I didn't like being single................there are plenty of men I could have made the wrong choice with! Finding a partner has to enhance my life...................not take away from what I already have and have worked very hard to get!!! I appreciate your concern............and I will check out the "love being single" board. But I bet there is a lot more to "I love being single" than what is being posted. I would be more likely to think some of them should be honest w/themselves! I hope I cleared some things up. BTW, I've been single for 7 yrs .........it'll be 8 in April..........and let me tell you........IT HAS BEEN ONE HECK OF A FUN RIDE!!! It's only human to hope that there's really a mate ..........a soulmate..........a real partner.........for everyone........including me! |
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