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January 18, 2006, 12:33 pm PST

Matthew here from the Dr Phil Show!!

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This is the problem Matthew.  WHAT YOU TALK ABOUT!  Now when these ladies start asking you PERSONAL QUESTIONS about how your relationship with your wife is doing what do you say?  I mean if you talk about your wives negatives with them.... it is wrong.  You already mentioned you ran to help a friend who was breaking up with her man.... so they must be giving you advice about handling your issues with your lady?  Does your ex girlfriend ask you about your sex life? Comparisons?  This is only setting yourself up to have an affair although perhaps you haven't had one yet.  They will sympathize with you because they haven't heard her side of the story from her.  They have only heard yours so they will side with you.  A true friend will hear both sides of the story and try to help you back together.  Your single mom workin' 2 jobs is looking for someone and if she could get you.... she probably would....  ?  I don't think you should be talking about marital problems or differences with these women.  If you have something in common like?  liking hockey or reading or work or something general it's one thing....but if its problems... You got Dr Phil's advice and a boat load of books for sale in the library that could give you good advice.....
 Thanks for your input.  As I stated to an earlier respoinse I gave Michelle and I take the good with the bad on these message boards.  I have absolutely never talked about intimate details to my female friends  concerning my wife.  There is a line that has to be drawn somewhere.  I'm normally the one giving the advice rather than getting it.  I pretty much have my life with Michelle wrapped up tight where as we both take care of our issues as they arise.  This is one issue that has never been resolved and that is has all changed since the taping of this show.  Do you recall me saying that Michelle, my family, and my marriage mean absolutely everything to me?  I was asked the question by the on-location crew that if there was a choiuce between my friends and my wife who would I chose and hands down, as stated on the show, I would choose my wife.  These friends of mine have relationships of their own...I know their boyfriends...yes both my friends have boyfriends and it's all good, but in all of this I was remiss in thinking this small thing would effect my wife in such a way. The other thing that troubled both of us is the omitting of pieces of our interview that were NOT shown that would've shed more light on how we both think. and the events leading to "the call."  l so you all only got a portion of the story but the edited parts that were cut out would explain so much more.  I've always been one that people convey problems to, issues, anything..people just find it easy to talk to me where I'm not judgmental, or have pre-concieved ideas.  I understand your comments and value them as I do allthat Michelle and I have read on here thus far. 

P.S.  The Ex- girlfriend has been over 13 years.  Meaning that was how long ago we were an item back then.  Found we were better off friends than anything and that's how it's been for the longest time.  Take care and again thanks for your response!

Matthew
 


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