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August 10, 2005, 6:51 pm PDT
I understand
Quote From: kdabam I think the problem I am having here is that I wasn't getting so heated over the spanking issue rather that I felt my advice that I gave to a mom who is having trouble with her son was interpreted that this parent was being wishy washy and so on. and that is why the problems were there. I am very passionate about special needs children and when a parent is trying, not being heard and asking for help then I would like to help any way I can. I felt that your statement was offending if it was being directed to her but you were just defining what you felt a wishy washy parenting style was in general. I just was confused by this because that wasn't what the post was about. I don't feel it is wrong to see both sides, nor should you back down on your beliefs. No parent should. We do the best we can with what we have and hope that something we said or did sinks in when they are out there on their own. Ok that's it because we can go around and around for ever and never really come to an answer. We should be coming together and not against. Hope you have a good week I don't remember who it was or what exactly the discussion was at this point as I have not reread messages, but some one mentioned something about wishy washy parents and maybe not, but I think I felt it was towards me so I was responding to what my definition was and as I pointed out before I clicked on "reply with quote" which was the mistake I made, I should have clicked on "post a message" then no ones message would have been high lighted. I will try to be more careful on that. I really am sorry about that casue I too am a very passionate person, especially when it comes to children, I would never purposely degrade another parent for their great efforts in raising their children and I think this is what I have been wanting to make clear to you here, children are my passion as I have been in children's ministries for 25 years and 15 of those years were in the poorest part of my city, the inner city, I have worked camps involving children of all walks of life and two particular weeks out of the summer are set aside for those in the system who seem to fall through the cracks in many ways, which in all honesty I was one of those kids but survived and had great role models and mentors and I try really hard to set the same type of example. ANy way, I am fine with all this, and I don't want to bring it up any more either, I think these message boards is a great thing as I have developed many good friends through them, (which I never thought could really happen), and maybe that is why I am so drawn to them, I don't think one can have too many friends, can they? :) but I do see the down side of the boards as it is sometimes hard to interprett some postings and I know how easy it is to offend some one with out the intention there and vice versa. I think they tried to make these boards easier and all, but leave it to me to mess up, I will try not to highlight a message while typing a thought unless of course it goes along with a message.
The girls and I will be leaving sometime after lunch tomorrow for a couple days, leaving hubby at home so he can get some much needed work done here with out little tiny hands trying to help. I may check in one more time before I leave but otherwise won't be back on for several days. Have a nice weekend.
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