Quote From: mothermoe
I have 2 children with high functioning autism. One son is 9 years old with Aspergers, and my other son is 5 with PDD-NOS. We were devastated when the boys were diagnosed, but we feel blessed that they had a diagnosis early and could receive services to help them. They are both doing very well and attend a regular classroom in a public school. But I still needed some help for myself dealling with this on a daily basis. My 9 year old has moments of anger and I have had to get help for that. But who could I talk to about this. So I started a support group for mothers caring for children with autism. It has been a life saver. We meet once a month for coffee and share our daily struggles with each other. We also share what is going well and try to give advice to other moms to see if it will help them. My heart goes out to Karen. I know her pain. As a mom you want to fix everything for your kids, but when they have autism, we have to change ourselves and think differently and act differently in order to help our kids. I pray Karen can find someone to talk to that can relate to what she is going through. Sometimes when we reach out to help other people in the same situation we end up helping ourselves too.
Yes Yes... I totally agree with you.
As a mom you want to fix everything for your kids, but when they have autism, we have to change ourselves and think differently and act differently in order to help our kids.
As a mom of an autistic child, being high functioning or low, anywhere on the spectrum~you have to change how you think. You are not a typical mother. We want to fix everything, and it breaks our hearts to no end that we can't. Some of us just can't pick up our child when he's crying to comfort him because that would make it worse because touching hurts him, and etc etc. We must think differently to comfort our children with this disorder. And once we do find WHAT comforts, works we can feel some sort of relief that we have helped our child in some way.
It's so backwards sometimes than what is our instinct-way to love, but it's what our child needs and it's a great moment when you can connect to him with him receiving your help/love.
