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January 17, 2006, 5:03 pm PST
 Quote From: karen_kiki I know many people must wonder what terrible parents we are. Yes I suspected this even before going on the show. What you saw was the extremes and if you think we do not try to understand and help Alex you are WRONG. But as I said to Dr. Phil we are at the end of our rope, at least I am. Yes we yell and cry and jump down his throat, but did you see the whole scene? Do you know what started the meltdown? Dr. Phil can only show so much and what they chose to show the viewers were the extremes. Alex is a wonderful kind hearted young man however when the switch flips it is like a horror film in our home or wherever it takes place. On some occasions he actually flips the switch for attention and he has admitted that, so when is he flipping the switch and when is it his neurological disorder.
We aired our dirty laundry to get help. Comments like yours will help us as we are reaching out for answers for counseling and medication if and where needed. We are two working parent family and due to financial struggles in our community we are both working multiple jobs, none of which are full time and we have no benefits. We are doing all we can to make life the best for him and as I said, losing ourselves in the midst of it all.
I have gone into counseling and I am sure that Alex, Richard and I are on the road to recovery. We will be in recovery for the rest of our lives.
K Are you responding to the original quote from the nurse? I'm agreeing with you, the parent. I don't think other people understand, the viewers, how frustrated you, the parent, are. I was crying watching you. I know exactly how you feel. My husband has it. It sounded more like raised voices not yelling and raised because you were in different rooms. I didn't think you sounded like you were yelling at all. I completely related to you and felt so sad by it. I was replying to the nurse who was saying that Alex sounded just like any other teenager. I think the show didn't bring out how frustrating Asperger's is. I wish I knew what medications work too. My husband seemed better on Lexapro for depression. He was also more in control and better able to communicate on Ritalin. I have no idea what else he might try. I wish he would get help. He's impossible. I know you're trying to understand your son. It's very obvious that you love him deeply. You both love each other too. I think the biggest thing you can do for yourselves is thank God you and your husband are friends and work on a relationship, a loving relationship together. My God you both deserve it. Hold hands again. Just put your head on his shoulder. He should put his arm around you. Cry together. You've done an amazing thing by staying friends through this. You're both united and that's to be heralded. Work on your relationship with your husband and enjoy your life. You DO deserve it. You do, you do, you both do. I'm all alone now. My husband left me and the girls. He has Asperger's. :( |
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January 18, 2006, 11:45 am PST
Quote From: karen_kiki I know many people must wonder what terrible parents we are. Yes I suspected this even before going on the show. What you saw was the extremes and if you think we do not try to understand and help Alex you are WRONG. But as I said to Dr. Phil we are at the end of our rope, at least I am. Yes we yell and cry and jump down his throat, but did you see the whole scene? Do you know what started the meltdown? Dr. Phil can only show so much and what they chose to show the viewers were the extremes. Alex is a wonderful kind hearted young man however when the switch flips it is like a horror film in our home or wherever it takes place. On some occasions he actually flips the switch for attention and he has admitted that, so when is he flipping the switch and when is it his neurological disorder.
We aired our dirty laundry to get help. Comments like yours will help us as we are reaching out for answers for counseling and medication if and where needed. We are two working parent family and due to financial struggles in our community we are both working multiple jobs, none of which are full time and we have no benefits. We are doing all we can to make life the best for him and as I said, losing ourselves in the midst of it all.
I have gone into counseling and I am sure that Alex, Richard and I are on the road to recovery. We will be in recovery for the rest of our lives.
K My son 15 year old son has Tourette Syndrome, OCD and ADD. You are wonderful, caring parents who are trying to help your son the best way you can. It is a very lonely road that no one should judge unless they walk in your shoes. I once read in a Tourette Syndrome article, why is it that a school, etc. will have compassion for a child who was involved in an car accident and sufferred a brain injury and not have the same compassion to a child who has been living with a brain "injury" since birth. All we can do is advocate for our children. Counseling will be a blessing for your family, it has for ours. |
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