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Your story is so very similar to mine.  I had 3 little girls.  My husband,  a son and daughter.  My husband had custody of his children.  At the time we married the children ages ranged from 2-6.  I knew right away something wasn't right with my step-son.  I began having him tested and after 3-4 yrs of getting know where I happened to hear about Asperger's.  We took him to a specialist in Santa Barbara where he was diagnosed.  With all the reading I had done it didn't take me long to figure out that his Father, my husband had the same thing.  My marriage has been tough.  We have had our share of counseling.  But, the books I have read are really what helped me the most.  And yes, they are hard to read.  I would read them first and underline in blue what I felt related to us.  Then my husband would read after me and write comments along the edge.  I then gave the book to our therapist with all our writings inside.  Our Therapist (who loves Dr. Phil and has been to his show many times) was then able to help us see better how each other was feeling.  She was able to explain to my husband in an intelligent way (without emotion) how his actions where making me feel and react.  The dance that goes on in a marriage.  I would love to corresponde with you via email. 

Lisa