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February 2, 2006, 12:08 pm PST
It will be ok, really.
Quote From: proud_mom1
If I were you, I would explain to your husband that it's not him you don't trust but that it's her. There is absolutely no reason why he can't stay at a hotel and if he values your marriage at all, he would do this. You're his wife now and your feelings should come first. And if he still refuses, tell him to make the trip a little longer and think about what your marriage means to him. Ask him what's more important: keeping your marriage strong or hurting her feelings and making her uncomfortable? His answer to this should tell you what you need to do next.
Hi there, my name is Kim. And I was hoping to give you some insight on this. I have lived with my boyfriend for about 14 months now. I have 2 children from a previous marriage and he has a daughter who lives in Denver with her mother, she is almost 8. His daughter is everything to him and when she asks him to come out for whatever reason, he will and does. Drives the 11 hours drive. And I do support him when he goes, it is his only child. He used to stay at his ex's house before I came into the picture, but now he stays in a hotel nearby. If your husband does need to go see his son, let him, it is his right. And support him on that. But since you two have been married for over 2 years, you two need to sit down and talk about where he is to stay. He should by all means stay in a hotel, out of consideration for you, after all you are his wife now. There should be no reason why he can't stay in a hotel. And he should stay in a hotel. Once you get that established, then don't worry about him going to see his son, it will only bring on aggrivation from him and he may resent you for not letting him see his son. Trust me on that. It will be ok once he agrees to stay in a hotel, he needs to out of respect for you.
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