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August 15, 2005, 7:26 am PDT
 Quote From: tselb2 Hello there Jetta and Karen. So good to see you are doing well Karen. Gosh, I really miss chattin' with you. I remember the early days of our board here and boy, have we come a LLLOOOONNGGG way or what?!? :) I think it is really sad when someone says that they are a good parent b/c of not spanking or imply that someone is a bad parent b/c they do. I know, personally, there is SUCH a HUGE difference between spanking and abuse I just can't imagine someone NOT understanding it. Although, after all the time I've spent here, I realize that is just the case.
I won't go into all the hoopla of our home, but we do believe in spanking. I know that not everyone does and that is quite okay. I believe there are GREAT parents either way. I also believe there are parents who shouldn't be parents either way. Raising a child takes so much energy in so many avenues how can you possibly limit it to one aspect? Just b/c I'm faithful in taking my children to church, does that mean parents who don't are bad? Of course not. Just b/c I don't allow my children to watch certain things on TV, does that mean parents who do are bad? Of course not. We all make the decisions we do based on what "we" believe is the best for them. Now, on the other hand, as the previous poster said about her Mom being oblivious to her emotions through her Mom's treatment of her, that is a communication problem, not a spanking problem. I, personally, have a GREAT communication relationship with my dh and children. They boys have clearly expressed how they felt when being spanked, but likewise how they felt/feel when they are being disciplined period. Bottom line is they pretty much don't like either but understand the consequence came as a result of their choices. Too, if the discipline does not bring positive, lasting, and definite results, it is just simply not worth it to me.
Hope everyone has a GREAT Thursday. Jetta and Karen, you better hang in there girls or Scooby will be finding you!!!! :)
tselb2 I spotted you!!
Glad to see that you have dropped by and I agree with you 100 % in your posts. I think maybe if all of us as parents could just remember that we are all in the same boat here, maybe it would be easier not to judge, but I suppose part of it could be the human nature that we can't seem to be able to control at times, but whatever the case, I personally do try to support all parents as long as they are good parents and they care for their kids and all.
Any way, it has been a long weekend and we are beet today, not gonna be a lot of action going on here so maybe I will pop back in later. Have a great day every one. |
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