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February 6, 2006, 6:37 pm PST
i totally understand
Quote From: tiffani23I am a former foster youth i am still a young adult and i only have one thing to add to your wants to be a foster parent, society needs more people who would step up and give a child who is not as well off as your own a good home.you also need to evaluate yourselves and your family situations becausem you can end up doing more harm than good to that child that has already seen hell at a young age and is looking to you to be thier savior thier protecter and their safe place. So i say this to say if you are not willing to treat this child as your own then whats the point?Eventhough you may not be this childs biological family you may be the only definition of family they know so lets lead by example and let them what a real family should function like and make them proud to be apart of it and it doesnt have to end when they turn 18 did you all know that? i used to be a foster kid and most of the homes i went ot hurt me more than helped me, foster kids need to feel wanted and like they belong somewhere, so if you dont think you can care for the child like you would your own then you shouldnt even consider fostering, a foster family needs to be just that - a family, kids will often blame themselves for being neglected and feel that somehow its their fault that they are not treated as well as the parents own kids. you cant just give them a bed to sleep in and food to eat and expect them to feel appreciative, unless you traet them just like your own in every way then they will just feel like they dont belong or fit in, youve got to remember that most foster kids come from broken homes and families were the parents are not suitable to be parents and we dont want these kids growing up and not knowing how to love or feel good about themselves so we all need to lead by example, kids learn what they grow up around and what they see.
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