Quote From: baseballYou said it all right. I feel so much better when I can share about my daughter, and by the way her name is or was, I'm not sure how to put it any more but any how, My daughter her name is Cindy! I don't think my eyes know how to smile. I want to see them smile and I look in the mirror and it just doesn't happen. The really sad, sad part is it doesn't happen to my husband, or my son. We are all so sad and we pretend that we are happy but in reality we aren't. I wish we could all spend some time just remembering Cindy but right now it seems like nobody wants to even talk. If you could give me some more advice or if we could just talk that would be great. And by the way what is your sons name. Thanks so much! Linda
Hi Linda: How old was your daughter Cindy? I don't know if you're a reader but one book I read was "I'd Rather Laugh", by Linda Richman ( her daughter is married to Mike Myers of SNL). She lost a son and had so many bad things happen to her. Now she gives inspirational talks - lots of common sense.
I would suggest you talk and talk about your daughter. Keep her in your everyday life, in your thoughts, remember all that you can. One day you will see how much she has done and is still doing for you. Pain and suffering have an odd way of taking our minute-to-minute joys away. You can choose to remember her always, and let no one take that away from you. One thing I know is that my love for my son is always a part of me. He'd want me to continue filling up my days and finding joy. Cry and feel your loss as it is a very big one. You will be okay today, tomorrow, and the next day--one day at a time.. I care.
