Replies to 'Body Image & Sex Appeal'

LOOK SWEETIE LOOKS ARN'T EVERYTHING I HAVE BEEN IN MANY SHALLOW BASED RELATIONSHIPS WHERE ITS ONLY LOOKS  AND I JUST HAVE TO TELL YOU I WOULD SO MUCH RATHER FIND A MAN I COULD RELATE TO AND HAVE SERIOUS TALKS WITH AND SOMEONE CONSIDERATE ABOUT MY FEELINGS AND WHO ACTUALLY CARES WHAT I HAVE TO SAY I JUST HAVE TO TELL YOU JUST BECAUSE YOUR IN A WHEEL CHAIR DOESNT MEAN YOU SHOULD FELL YOU DONT HAVE ANYTHING TO OFFER A WOMAN SERIOSLY YOU HAVE SO MUCH MORE GOING FOR YOU AND FROM YOUR PICTURE YOU DONT LOOK SO BAD SO GOOD LUCK IN FINDING THAT GIRL THAT CAN SEE THE TRUE YOU BECAUSE IF THEY CANT THEN THERE NOT WORTH YOUR TIME

                                                                                                                                 KAYLEE

Don't let life pass you by,because you kinda think you are not worth it.If a woman turns you down because of you being in a wheelchair,well,heck,she was not worth it.Who wants a shallow person by their side??? Not me. 

Life is too short to worry about looks,etc.. 

Don't be intimidated,you will get hurt (yes,cruel people are out there),BUT you will find the one special person just for you. 

I went thru a lot of B/S,abuse,etc..Had enough of men,dated a few,but that was it.One day,at a party I started to talk to a guy,not handsome,not ugly,not skinny,not fat.Just a guy,two inches smaller then me.And we talked,the next day he called me for a date.I said yes,don't know why.I'm glad I did,we are going to be married for 6 years on the 18th. 

Don't let life pass you by,grab it. 

i think you need to do a little soul searching... i think that because of your disability you have led yourself to believe that you have nothing going for you at all... which i am positive is not true... look, you started off by coming here to get some answers or advice from people who are also struggling with different aspects of life... and we are here to help...  

I think you are someone who could definitely offer a whole lot to someone if you let yourself get past the thoughts you have about being disabled... just because you are in a wheelchair doesnt mean there is anything wrong with you... it doesnt mean you are unable to love or care for someone... it doesnt mean your heart is any smaller or that you cant love anyone ... my brother has lived his whole life in a wheelchair and he has struggled with these feelings of insecurity and doubt about how anyone will ever care for him... or how he can care for someone else... he is actually getting married to a wonderful girl, whom i do like a lot... and they are happy together... it was about confidence... he finally woke up one day and told himself that he wasnt going to feel sorry for himself anymore and he carried himself differently... he held his head high and people around him could see that he was a young, confident, able and capable person just like anyone else... wheels or no wheels he is just like me... he is a person who laughs and cries and loves children and knows that life isnt about how tall you are...  

I understand that when you initially meet people sometimes they look at you weird or like you have a problem but they are usually the close minded people who are worth your time anyway... 

In order to love, sometimes you need to be hurt... and as long as you are open, even if it hurts sometimes, you are open to good things as well... i think that some of your problems stem from your body image but it is your self image that reflects this behavior of never thinking you will be good enough... you would be surprised about some of us women out here... looks are not everything and sometimes we just need a loving, compassionate, caring and honest man in our lives... so long as he can offer love and understanding i dont think it matters whether he is walking beside us, or rolling beside us.. we just wanna be loved too.... 

Give it a shot, open up, you never know what might be around the corner... 

s7e7v7e7n7 

Maybe you shouldn't go for "very good looking" women.  You really want a woman who isn't shallow, yet you want someone hot, kind of hypocritical. Yeah it sucks that you are in a wheelchair and have gone through surgeries, but maybe you should be realistic about who is in your league, then you will have better luck.