Quote From: loretta24I somehow doubt that there is selfish motive behind your actions and based upon what I know of you through these boards I doubt you will be lacking someone to comfort you. You get what you give in this life and you do seem to be a giver.
Reading about your friend has brought back many emotions that I felt when my mother in law was dying. It is so damn painful to watch someone that you love slip away and when they are young like your brother it seems like robbery. My mother in law was also in her 50's, took care of herself and her health and in the end it didn't matter a bit. What bothers me the most is that my children did not get the privilege of having this amazing woman spoil them rotten.
Saying goodbye can be so damn hard.
I guess bringing up the subject of death is a sensitive subject for each of us. It does feel like robbery when they are young. More so when they are your children. My parents were beside themselves with grief. The fact that my brother and parents were estranged for a bit didn't help. They did get to reconcile about 2 years before he passed, but I don't think everything that needed to be said was said. That seems to be another thing that comes up at death. Another thing is sibling rivalry if it's a parent. I noticed that with my friends. Her children were quarreling about who would talk to the doctors, etc. Silly stuff, when you really look at it. Childhood feelings toward a sibling can suddenly come rushing up just in time to interfere. Burried feelings. Greed as well.
I told my sister that I hoped none of this would come up when our parents left this Earth. It scares me that these emotions would get in the way. She assured me that no matter what happened that we could always talk about it and clear it up. I'm still not reassured. When my brother died, her and I butted heads about dumb stuff. We did work it out, but with our parents I know it could be tenfold the strong emotions. Oh well, we'll cross that bridge....
