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August 12, 2005, 6:23 pm PDT
 Quote From: leettak I went to find him. I hired a PI to find him. He seemd elated I had done that. I do not expect that anyone live without love. But why insist that you didnt love her? Pretending that he was still with me has me freaked out. Four years staying single isnt hard for some and impossible for others. I have ask what you suggested. I came here as a last resort. I dont know what to ask. I need help with that. I am not sure if I have ever read anything to help me catagorize this into a help search. I am confused. I know I love him. I always have. But I can not reconnect. Am I looking for impossible answers? I said it is all okay. Tell me the truth. If this is the truth as he knows it and he did actually pretend that he was with me instead of her its crazy. they were together for one year. The last of our separation. I do know he was lonley. I understand that. but pretending she was me? I think thats a lie. I dont know how to open a dialog about lying. It starts fights that I no longer have the energy to sustain. Maybe he is pretending with me too? thanks for responding to me Your last question is exactly what I would be worried about if I were you: is he pretending with me? Good question. As the other poster already said, its understandable that he had a relationship with someone else, its even understandable that he was in love, or, thought he was in love, with another woman and bought her a diamond ring...BUT...he isn't being honest about what happened. He was in love with her and asked her to marry him. I wonder why he can't just be honest about this fact? He thinks that it sounds better to you that he says he was pretending she was you...thats very, very odd. I know that you just want this to "go away" so that you two can live happily ever after. That would be convenient, but its not realistic. Sometimes its the truth that hurts the most. But in your situation, its the lies that hurt the most. If he is lieing about this, what else would he lie about? Its really quite a silly thing to say and think that you would actually fall for it..that he pretended she was you.
When you contacted him, was he with this other woman and then broke up with her to be back with you? Or had they already broken up? just curious. |
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