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January 30, 2006, 4:33 am PST
 Quote From: minimick Yea, that anger brewing inside is horrid. I tried to figure out a way to do something about the injustice of it all, and clear the bad name my former boss had given me with everyone, but I eventually stopped thinking about it all the time. It's amazing how the Board members just followed along with the BS she was telling them. They were saying things like "she knew she was going to get the boot" ( I didn't know, Charlie, if I had known I would have caused trouble before I left) and "if I was there I would have told her......" blah blah blah. I confronted the board member who said that, she was also my hairdresser, and she said she didn't say those things, she wasn't at the meeting....LIES LIES LIES! Of course I'm still angry, I just have made a new life for myself and don't take the time to dwell on it much. They are all on my "F*** 'em List" now anyway....people I don't want to waste my energy on anymore. I can sure understand 10 years of anger like that would cause poasttraumatic stress syndrome! It's so true that one liar can take your life away from you and there's nothing you can do about it. I'm having a hard time trusting even my husband now, is he telling me the truth? I don't know. Hi again. i've come to believe that co-workers will tend to take the path of leas resistance, and that is why , even if deep down inside they support us, they are not going to verbalize it. Maybe they fear they will become the next target (and with some of these psycho bosses that is a very real possibility). it is sad that that is the way of things. If everyone were brave enough to band together, maybe there could be more justice in the workplace. I too felt the anger that you are talking about. You want to make things right, you want justice, you want the people who caused the trouble to be exposed and to be ousted. Well, I may not have made things right when I left that job I described in a previous messsage, but I left making alot of noise. I reported alot of stuff that had gone on (and of course got blackballed out of the next job I applied for when I was given a reference full of lies by my former boss. I had to threaten legal action to get her to stop the blackballing) I too felt that I never really got the justice that I deserved. In the end the only thing I could do was move on and gradually recoup my floundering self-esteem. I did get another job fairly quickly and I remember having a feeling of liberation that I could just do my job and not have to walk on eggshells and worry that everything I did and said would be twisted by some psychopathic boss. My new boss quickly realized what a good worker I was, and while she wasn't privy to many details of my former job, she did say it was 'their loss our gain". i think you need to take care of yourself, do what you need to to get back your self-esteem. Don't transfer the lack of trust for those people to your husband. Eventually your strong feelings will fade. You will never totally forget, but it won't be at the forefront of your mind. |
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