Replies to '06/13 Trapped'

I need to let you know that we can feel trapped but we are not. 

If We allow ourselves to be degraded and can't function without approval then you are trapped. 

Its a hard thing to do but be strong for yourself and your children. 

Its obvious theres something going on with your husband but he has to see it before there will be any change. 

DON'T  let him convince you this is all your fault and STOP feeling sorry for him 

You are paving the way for his distruction and believe me some of us don't need help 

If he loves you he will see the errors of his ways 

Why woudl you have to get state help when he gambles he must make some kind of income and quess what he as a FATHER has a responsibility to his children and to you so again  

Chin up Hair staight back and make the man COWBOY UP TO HIS RESPONSIBILITY.  

She is asking for help in a matter of love and her kids.  There are more to life then running away or just giving up.  One thing needs to be said here," We all in times need to stand up for ourselves and not let others interfere with the process."  It is not wise to run away when you are not ready, do you do that?  Do you run away then later on regret doing it?  I don't, therefore I don't regret much.  When I am good and tired of the problem and I have no more will to continue, no hope then that is when I will move on.  Until then, you must try to fix a problem.  When you say "I DO" to "the worst and good times, threw sickness and poor, till death" in our marriage vowels, do you mean what you say or do you just follow what others say?  I mean don't get me wrong here, if people agreed with you to marry the man you married, then I guess its alright for people to tell you to throw the towel in.  What I am trying to say here is, let your heart be the guide, please don't let what others influence you in making the right decision.  If you let them do that, you will live in regrets and not knowing what could of been.

yes, i do love him i probably always will, but i'm not in love with him. it has gotten to the point where i am just physically and emotionally drained. i cant go on like this and i wont go on like this anymore. i can only give so much and try so hard. i often get he " i dont know how you could stay for that long  with him being the way he is" and to tell you the truth i have no idea myself. but even through all of this, i know this sonds very contradicting, but what he doesnt need is for me to give up. he needs all the support he can get and whether it be if we are together or not, i'll be here for him.