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January 30, 2006, 5:34 pm PST

02/02 Twisted Love

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I would love to talk to you.  I am the woman on the show Thrusday.  I am new to the message boards, is there a way to send a private message so I can give you my contact information? 

Ladies, Ladies, Ladies, 

  

This is called an "open" relationship.  OPEN THE DOOR AND KICK HIM OUT.  Call it what he wants.  He wants to have, or is already having an affair.  If he really, really, loved you he wouldn't be tomcatting around.  He wants to have a bit on the side and not go thru the divorce - just in case it's not a green on the other side he can say "I was wrong honey, let it just be you and me" 

  

Yeah Right. 

Good luck with your decision but for me there is only one road.   

 
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January 30, 2006, 8:58 pm PST

02/02 Twisted Love

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I would love to talk to you.  I am the woman on the show Thrusday.  I am new to the message boards, is there a way to send a private message so I can give you my contact information? 
I am also new to the message boards, so I have no idea.  I would really love to talk with you.  Does anyone know how to privately send email information to someone?
 
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February 1, 2006, 10:43 pm PST

**Attn: Tracy**

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I would love to talk to you.  I am the woman on the show Thrusday.  I am new to the message boards, is there a way to send a private message so I can give you my contact information? 

Please, please do some research into NPD, or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The show has not yet aired here (it's Wednesday), but I cringe each time I see the previews. Charles reeks narcissist. Some of the criteria for NPD are: 

  

An all-pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behaviour), need for admiration or adulation and lack of empathy, usually beginning by early adulthood and present in various contexts. Five (or more) of the following criteria must be met:  

1. Feels grandiose and self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents to the point of lying, demands to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements.)  

2. Is obsessed with fantasies of unlimited success, fame, fearsome power or omnipotence, unequalled brilliance (the cerebral narcissist), bodily beauty or sexual performance (the somatic narcissist), or ideal, everlasting, all-conquering love or passion  

3. Firmly convinced that he or she is unique and, being special, can only be understood by, should only be treated by, or associate with, other special or unique, or high-status people (or institutions)  

4. Requires excessive admiration, adulation, attention and affirmation - or, failing that, wishes to be feared and to be notorious (narcissistic supply)  

5. Feels entitled. Expects unreasonable or special and favourable priority treatment.  

6. Demands automatic and full compliance with his or her expectations Is "interpersonally exploitative", i.e., uses others to achieve his or her own ends  

7. Devoid of empathy. Is unable or unwilling to identify with or acknowledge the feelings and needs of others  

8. Constantly envious of others or believes that they feel the same about him or her  

9. Arrogant, haughty behaviours or attitudes coupled with rage when frustrated, contradicted, or confronted . 

 

 

My email is in my profile...feel free to contact me at any time. I can also refer you to a private NPD support group- for survivors of relationships with a narcissist.  

 

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February 2, 2006, 4:30 pm PST

I don't know .....

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I would love to talk to you.  I am the woman on the show Thrusday.  I am new to the message boards, is there a way to send a private message so I can give you my contact information? 
but maybe dr.phil knows if we can leave you our email address
 
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February 4, 2006, 7:30 pm PST

My Story is the SAME

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I would love to talk to you.  I am the woman on the show Thrusday.  I am new to the message boards, is there a way to send a private message so I can give you my contact information? 

Unbelievable! I could have written this message myself word for word. My husband had an affair with my BEST friend, and I learned of this just about a month ago. I was absolutely shocked that either one of them could do this. My husband and my best friend told me they thought it was okay because we had joked so much about it, and he and she thought the banter back and forth gave them the "Green light."  He tells me he would have left me for her if she had feelings for him, because he has fallen in love with her. Our teenagers are best friends, and my husband hasn't decided what he wants to do. He wants BOTH of us. Just a couple of days ago, he decided to cut if off with her because he was hurt because she slept with another man during their affair. 

  

She is my BEST friend, and I forgive her, but I have taken responsibility for the teasing, and my husband thinks that is correct, because he thought I approved. 

  

He also wants more than I am willing to give, like three-ways, etc. I told him if he wants a three-way to go have one on his OWN. I don't want to hear about it. 

  

How do I deal with this and my daughters as well? I have lost my best friend to this and possibly my husband.  I am desperate. 

 
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June 24, 2006, 3:39 pm PDT

06/26 Twisted Love

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I would love to talk to you.  I am the woman on the show Thrusday.  I am new to the message boards, is there a way to send a private message so I can give you my contact information? 
You will not hold your husband by falling into his trap - if he does not leave now, the game will become old and you will lose him later! - This has never been the answer to any marital problems! - infidelity widen the creek between the to of you - it will them become a river .... and an ocean!
 
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June 26, 2006, 9:16 pm PDT

Be Strong

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I would love to talk to you.  I am the woman on the show Thrusday.  I am new to the message boards, is there a way to send a private message so I can give you my contact information? 
 Tracy, if you are married to Charles, be strong. I know it is tough for women to lay hold of their power, because society has trained them to be submissive. I ask you to get a strong hold on the strength that let you raise those great kids. Charles is vain and narcissistic. He may change and improve, but the odds are not in favor of his improving. Narcissists tend to hold pretty tightly to their personality disorder traits.

Blessings and good fortune to you.

Richard
 


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