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February 3, 2006, 2:58 pm PST
I'm Sorry...
Quote From: msswayneI have conforted him about different things in our life and he has a excluse and a lie for everthing I bring up. I have self esteem and dont understand why. He is putting us financially in debt
He is buying things to cover up what he is doing like why he is not answering his phone in the hotel room. I could go on and on I am a working housewife who has a decent job and trying to make ends meet but cant get money saved up because of his spending is out of control.
I am not sure what to do any more. He like being with both of us tell each one of us he loves us and he has sex with both of us. but he does not really know I know all of this I have confronted him with things going on. but I cant get him to confess to it. all . he is telling lies upon lies. It sounds like you are so sad and stressed out...not only is he cheating on you but he's wrecking your finances! He will never confess--and, even if he did, what will it change? If he can't be honest now, chances are he won't be honest ever. He's doing what he's doing now because it is working. He isn't confessing his infidelity to you, although he knows you know , and you haven't left yet or kicked him out. There have been no consequences for his behavior. He will continue to do what he is doing until something or someone sets a consequence. If you are sure that he is cheating on you, then YOU need to make a decision about what to do about your marriage. Don't wait around for him to decide what he wants to do. Meanwhile, you need to be protecting your finances by putting money away he can't spend or get to so that if he does decide to leave or you decide to leave, you won't be penniless. Good luck--you are in my prayers.
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