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June 16, 2006, 8:58 am PDT
Move Out
Quote From: mibashert1I'm not saying break up with him..just find your own place. Give him time to figure out if he's ready to take the relationship to the next level. No amount of asking will make him ready if he isn't. He needs to feel what it's like not to have you there cooking dinner, waking up next to him and washing his clothes. Personally, I don't believe in shacking up; the man receives all the benefits without making the commitment. My question to you is...how long will you stay in this relationship? Will you stay another 3 1/2 years? During your separation, you should be asking yourself whether HE is really the man for you? Frankly, If he doesn't know after 4 1/2 years that you are "The One", then why waste your time any longer. At some point you will want to have kids, no? I don't want to see you end up like so many women; 36 years old and unmarried because they spent the last 5-10 years with a man (or men) who had no intention of making them a bride.
Good luck!!! I hope it all works out for the best (no matter what that may be). Look I agree with the person before to an extent. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and counting (monogamously). We are still not engaged because we want to be stable in all aspects of our lives before we move any further. We do not live together and we do not have sex. There are certain things that should be saved for marriage and if they aren't you are only asking for trouble. I know this probably sound redundant, but why buy the cow if you get the milk for free? You probably cook, do laundry, and clean for him, so why should he marry you? I don't mean for it to sound harsh but until you do get pregnant or something he is perfectly content be cared for. I hope this helps.
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