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February 20, 2006, 1:57 pm PST
Ready for Marriage?
Quote From: saffronsisWe have been dating for almost a year now. We know we want to get married. We both have been married before. We live in neighboring towns (about 30 min from each other). I have two school-age children.
He suggests that I might move into his house if we get married. The thing is, I don't like his house for a few reasons: 1. I would have to drive an additional 30 min, just to take them to school in the morning, then there is an additional 45 minute commute to work from there. That makes for a long day. He also has a long commute - he actaully works all over town, so anywhere we lived would be a long drive for him as well.
2. I feel like when we get married, would should have "our own house together", not just me moving into his house. I guess I don't like the idea of it always being his house, not ours.
3. I don't like his house. It has a weird floor plan, it hasn't been remodled since the 80's, it's just not my style.
He knows all this already. But I think we will eventually need to come up with a compromise.
Any thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks! :0) I can see why you wouldn't like the commute, but isn't the whole point being with the other person. Consider yourself lucky that you have a choice of homes. If he owns & you rent, it would be a financially sound decision, at least until you could find something together to call your own that might be middle ground between your 2 current homes.
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