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February 1, 2006, 12:20 pm PST
02/01 "Throw It Out!"
Quote From: soonrmomI recently married a wonderful man with a 6 year old son. The son lives with his mother and we get him evey other weekend and holiday. After several months into our relationship I discovered that the mother was a hoarder. Not a collector - but a hoarder! The front seat of her car is piled with newspapers she plans "someday" to recycle. Pictures of her home show piles and piles of boxes, and sacks she may someday use. She has a room that is just filled with "Stuff". Other pictures show that a person cannot get to the kitchen sink or cabinets due to the sacks, old mail, etc. There is a path from the doorway to the couch. My stepson's room is so cluttered with toy boxes,sacks, etc that he cannnot play in the floor.
The child has allergies but I am sure that the allergist is not aware of the conditions in which he regularly lives. He is on 5 different kinds of medicine and continually comes down with bronchitis and other respiratory illnesses.
There are other circumstances that concern me about his well-being and her skills and judgement as a mother but I will not elaborate as they do not pertain to this topic.
I would appreciate guidance on how to help the situation for the sake of the child. Do I turn her in to Protective Services? She clearly needs help and would not take advice or counseling from either my husband or myself.
HI ' .... I hope you can get her to watch the show today
If not , maybe you can watch the show and find a way to understand the woman. I think she's afraid to waste money for one thing. She wants to do too much with so little time. Her son is allergic to dust or mites and this is not good. Some of us have parents who threw out everything we ever had and we resent it. I think that she doesn't want her son to resent her for throwing out his things. He needs to decide on what he wants to keep or to give things away when he's finished with them at Christmas time to some needy people. He might let go easier that way. I also think that the woman finds pleasure in reminiscing in the past and being reminded of good ol times ,the things help her to remember the old times.. . She's probably a day dreamer so when she starts to go through her things to get rid of what she doesn't need , she finds things that give her an idea to do something different. For instance...a loose picture of an old friend in a box of stuff that she would come across would make her want to spend hours or days looking for that person..by phone, e-mail..etc.. A person who won't part with things has a reason for every thing and a person like this has an over active analytical mind. Someone like this just has to do what Dr. Phil says.. put the task of going through things in the agenda and do it..little by little , it will get done...one box at a time...Hope this helps..
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