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February 1, 2006, 2:31 pm PST
Daycare/Babysitters/Nannies
Quote From: kat200My mom stayed home, so I didn't go to daycare. However, I did have some experiences with a few kids who did in elementary school, and they were not positive.
1) In a couple of grades, there were kids who did not return things they were supposed to--I remember a few times when we had a class picture and individual pictures taken and were supposed to return them if we didn't want to buy them, the kids who didn't were in daycare. I really recall the teacher saying, "You need to return the picture--it doesn't belong to you!" or "They aren't free."
2) In fifth grade, there a girl who was very aggressive and jealous that I didn't want to be friends with her. One time, when the class was in the hall walking to art class, she began pushing several people in line, including me, for no reason. (She never did it again, so I'm assuming the teacher talked with her after I informed her.) She went to daycare, and I think her mom was divorced. She has also joined my fourth grade class the previous spring, so I knew how she was from the beginning.
It is a myth that children need daycare to socialize. They can do that with siblings or cousins or your friend's children. Also, children do not begin to socialize until around the age of three, so daycare has no benefit before that time. If you look at studies by Dr.Laura and Dr.T Berry Braselton, you'll find proof that daycare is not beneficial and that most daycares, over 90%, are not high quality. I'm not so sure that I agree with everything that you are saying though I do believe kids are better off at home with their parents at such young ages. I am a stay at home mom with no desire to use day care, I have worked in good day cares in the past but there are always some one to give a bad name to the place or who just isn't a good teacher. Just any one can usually walk into a building. My oldest is in preschool but she didn't start going til this year when she was 4, she communicates with me about everything and every one that she comes in contact with at school, a 6 week old (which is the start age at many centers) cannot speak up or play out anything that she sees at school. I feel a child should be able to communicate when being placed in a center...and you are wrong about the age three socialization, my oldest was talking, singing, holding conversations at the age of two, was daytime potty trained by the time she was two, recognized letters, shapes and colors and printing her name before the age of three. At two years old, I had her in the 3-5 year old Sunday school class at my church mainly becasue she was the only baby there at the time(she was two) but hey, the child was coloring at 11 months old and her social skils were wonderful by the time she was two.........Now, my youngest is 3 but not as advanced but yes she was holding conversations at the age of two and also in the 3-5 year old class at church,She just turned three a month ago, and not far behind her sister. Kids learn at different paces and their skills develop at different times, no kid is the same and depending on the family and what they are exposed to will have an impact on how children learn and develop in a lot of areas and socializing can happen very early on, My children have been around other children since they were infants, therefore do not lack in that skill, and they were doing it way before the age of 3.
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