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July 20, 2006, 3:34 pm PDT
WOW! thought maybe I was alone.....
Quote From: steph1972sorry said 'need' him...I ment to type - I don't need him. Thing is I have made sure I don't have any 'need' for him by having no expectations...so if I don't speak to him often and don't have any 'need' for him why do I keep feeling like this? What is stopping a 33 year old grown woman with her own husband and baby from moving on?? I want to let go of these feelings but perhaps I feel I need to forgive him to do so...and I don't know if I can as he's put himself first so many times...I forgave him once with my mothers best friend as he told me it was love etc.. we (the family) all worked so hard to get along and we came such a long way...then he cheated on her (we think)..so why forgive and forgive...Oprah said when somebody shows you what they are like the first time don't make them show you again and again...so true...so he has shown his true colours...why can't I let him go? your dad and my mom should get together and go bowling! The truth is forgiving him is your only option. For your own sanity forgive him for being inept. His short-comings are just that his. try to get past what he did so it doesn't tear apart your life. I feel certain that he is spending way less effort thinking of what he did or how it affected you. I could write all day about the emotional ringer my mother has put me through in 30 years, but the truth is the only way to get over it is to stop reliving it.
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