If a "bad history" involves adultry, divorce, drug use, alcholism, selfishness and immaturity (i.e. going out with the guys often), than WHY ON EARTH would you even CONSIDER him for a lifelong mate?
We women need to smarten up QUICKLY. Don't we love ourselves enough to demand more from others? Are we that frightened to be alone that we'll "settle" for less than we know we deserve?
If your guy wants nothing to do with the plans, there's probably a good reason for it. He'll probably not want much to do with you once you're married either. I'd study his history WELL and then ask myself why I would even consider marrying him?
With a near 60% divorce rate along with your misgivings about him even before your marriage, you would be a fool to marry this man. Stay friends for a LONG time. If he survives the LONG courtship, than reconsider him.
By the way, HE's not "talking about getting married" if he doesn't want any say in the plans. YOU are talking about getting married. That should be a red flag to you. Please wake up before you become a divorce statistic. God bless you in doing what you know (deep down) is best for you!
