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February 5, 2006, 7:38 pm PST
Lying about Money/Spending
Quote From: butterflymThank you for your advice. I have handed over all of my credit cards to my husband. We have been trying to put this thing back together, but I don't know how we are going to. He has lost all trust in me. He feels betrayed and decieved. I guess I don't blame him. In the meantime, I am researching compulsive spending, finding myself in all of the words. Tomorrow I meet with a therapist. I know that my spending is in direct relation to my self image. It's no different than any other addiction. I just hope over time my husband can see that and on some even small level begin to understand that this was not about him, but about me and my lack of self esteem (thanks to childhood scars). Thank you again for your kind words and advice. I really appreciate the support. I think you made a very positive step and you should be very proud of yourself. I'm glad you found my post helpful. At some point with progress in indiv counseling you might want to think about couples counseling to help your husband understand what you are going through and rebuild the trust in your relationship. I think it will take some time, but with responsible budgeting and honesty on your part, addressing the childhood issues, and increased understanding on his part, you two will get through this! Good luck!
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