Replies to '06/15 Bad Brides'

"To this day many women are still caught up in putting up with all kinds of bad behavior from their guys because they feel they don't have any other options if they want someone to marry them.  

 Where as men will leave or threaten to leave at the drop of a hat because they know they have that control over the relationship.  I've herad so many women say that they gave up who they were and their lives to fit what the man in their life wanted.  

I think bridezillas are just those same women getting their revenge. It is their way of saying "@#$% You!" to a society that doesn't value them until they get married and an outlet for all they had to put up with from their guy to get to the point of marrying in the first place. It's finally THEIR day.  " 

Women in this day and age are so much more less like to "have to marry" where once there was a rush because a woman *needed* to be married and have a man there to support her finacially.  This is just not the case today & hasn't been for some time.  There is NO reason for a woman to feel desperate to marry and they shouldn't be looking to get married because they "want to be married" .  When I married my husband it wasn't because I found a guy who was willing to marry me and didn't give me too difficult of a time.  Getting married and being in a relationship is suppose to be a shared responsiblity to being committed to each other & there shouldn't be any one of them that is "controlling the relationship" .  If there is they don't understand what a relationship like this or marriage is & they shouldn't get married at all!  I believe that the women who feel they're not "valued by society because they're single" are just looking for excuses for childish behavior & are too immature emotionally for the responsibility of being 1/2 of a commited partnership.   

When you "find the right guy" it isn't just because he fits into a particular set of rules you've set up for yourself or for him but it's because you love who he is!  When you're with him you love it and you always want to be there.  When you've been spending a lot of time together &you always want it that way &/or more of that then that is the right guy.  It isn't because you've finally "landed you a man & you want to be a married woman. 

There is NO excuse for acting the way these ladies do.  Actually from the time of yesteryear to this day & age women whould be a LOT more gracious than ever because the womenof yesteryear had hardly any say about what waszs going to happen & that just isn't the case today.