Quote From: msyvrnIn my 2nd year of being single, I seem to be only moving backward. I am still attempting to reconcile what should be buried by now. I have read many self helps in attempts to move forward I understand the process and have begun the work required to reach success. My ex and I have become sexually active in the last 7 months.(initiated by me) each encounter we express our concerns about the wrong we are doing and say this wont reoccur. but it continues, I have decided that for some reason that I have not been able to express to my ex. this is a obvious sign that we should attempt repairing our family not just for us but also our 2 children(13&5). I'm confused and have the desire to end this destructive behavior. I try eventhough I dont hold out much hope that he will ever be my husband, for his pride and having to admit he made a mistake are 2 things that are impossible to overcome. I need some new ideas regarding acceptance and living with what I cant change, for I understand that no matter how obvious the signs are I cant make him see, or act in accordance with what should be.
You are living single and sleeping double with a man you KNOW will not change. Why do you let him use you like this? YES, this is destructive and as long as it continues you will remain CONFUSED. You need emotional and physical distance in order to move on. Old habits are hard to break.
Do NOT let him come to the house. Do NOT go to his home. Use a third party when he picks up the kids. Keep conversations short and relevant. Use voicemail if necessary. Cease being available.
Those self helps are GREAT when they apply to someone else. Now turn them around and apply them to you.
