Quote From: faraway67I am a wife in a situation like yours-
My husband was not supportive in ANY way; while I put my whole being into taking care of everyone and supporting everyone and the household.
I asked him to leave, he wanted to work things out, but not make any changes. He moved out almost a year ago.
He said he still loved me, but would not choose me and two young sons over his playing with race cars and his redneck friends and improper relationships/friendships with other women.
I still want to work things out, but this means making changes he is not willing to make.
I would willingly make changes to accomodate, but only if they are healthy changes, not enabling poor behavior!
My advice to you is to make changes in yourself NOW, let her know you are making these changes, regardless of whether you get back together- and then let her have time to watch your efforts. Perhaps she can come to respect you again, and perhaps she still has feelings and a desire to make a family life with you.
Be patient, her resentment, anger, and frustration are not going to disappear overnight.
She needs to be able to respect you and be proud of you, or she will never be able to love you and make a life with you.
I have realized my mistakes and want to be a better person cause of it. I can make all the promises in the world, but as they say it takes a second to make a promise but it takes a lifetime to keep. Thanks for the advice and I am taking it one day at a time. I hope all works out for you and your family. Have a graet day.
