Replies to '06/26 Twisted Love'

Sorry to hear you are trapped and stressed.    If there is anything I want anyone (male or female) reading this to know, it is that there IS life after life with a "piece of work".    You recover, and frankly I laugh about a lot of the stuff that happened back then.    I cannot believe I was so led by the nose for so long by the person I thought was my friend and lover....he used to say we were a "team" and it was us against the world.    (Laughing as I type that).   For years he played "dedicated family man" while at the same time leading a completely secret life of debauchery when away from home.  Been doing this since he was a teen.   He admitted all to me in the end...about the kinks and all  (but of course won't admit that to anyone else and just discredits me as being "nuts".   No matter). 

I forgive him (because I now understand sexual addiction) but doesn't mean I have to like him or trust him.     Forgiveness has been the key to finding happiness again.    I have someone kind, compassionate, totally trustworthy and honest in my life now.     It is like a long cold drink of water after years stumbling around a harsh desert.    Thank you Lord.   I hope ex gets help some day, but doubt if he will ever be able to face up to the truth of his situation.    Truth is not his strong point.  They (sex addicts) lose the ability to tell the difference between reality and their own rationalizations.    They become, in effect, pathological liars.    They actually believe their own lies.  

Anyway Tracy I hope you find happiness with or without your man.    I feel for you.   Good luck to anyone going thru this out there.   I''ve been thru it and have come out the other side.    Don't usually think about it all that much (too busy having fun), until I found myself on this board reading all your stories.    Brought a lot of it back.    Have a hundred stories to tell.    Very cathartic!    I am sick and stuck at home so taking part here for the first time has been a good way to pass the time.    Back to work soon.