Replies to '06/26 Twisted Love'

Tracy agreed the "other woman" and Charles, did not become intimate until AFTER Charles spoke with Tracy about it. Tracy did not speak up at that time, so whether you agree with the lifestyle (which I don't live) or not, Tracy lead both her husband and this woman to believe she was willing to try this lifestyle.  

I don't know that Charles or Tracy had the tools with which to navigate their own relationship, much less try something which appears (at least to me) to be even more complex than a "normal" (for lack of a better descriptive work) relationship. But that is a moot issue, they tried it, and they have moved on and away from this lifestlye. Their choice, they are adults. 

If we are saying that any one person got what they deserved in this "relationship"; then quite frankly, they all got what they deserved. 

When are we going to learn that we are each responsible for behavior we accept from other people?  

When are we going to learn that we are each responsible for communicating our needs, wishes, desires, and feelings to our partners? 

If we continue open and honest communication from the beginning, it would be hard for someone to mistreat us to the point of destroying our self worth and self esteem. You state how you feel; the other person accepts it or not and you move either on together or apart. Pretty simple really. It is those who are too afraid of "losing someone" or "giving someone up" who have issues doing this. And if you are not speaking your feelings YOU never really "had" them anyway, the person you were PRETENDING to be who "had" them.