Replies to 'Military Families Support'

Thank you for coming here and telling us about yourself. By the way, how did you find out about this board? I see by your profile that you are new to the drphil.com Message Boards. (You can click on anyone’s username and read about them.) Did you come in through a SEARCH or did you just decide to sign up here because you watch Dr. Phil’s show?

Kelly and mjkkas have been around for awhile and we know one another a little. They came over with me from the *1 More Yellow Ribbon” Message Board that I created on September 11th. They will introduce themselves to you soon. I have already taken up so much space tonight, so I’ll leave my story for later. I would like to address your issues briefly.

Your situation is a tough one. I’m wondering how old you and your husband are and how long you have been together? He must be at least 30+. Have you had custody of the boy long?

You wrote: “I don't know how much longer I can sit here and wait...” Is His job (?) in Iraq going to be a permanent situation? Can you move closer to family? There are always alternatives.

“A real marriage”? What does that mean to you? Do you love each other?

When I want solutions I find it’s best to write out things. Things go around and around in my head and it gets confusing and frustrating. It it like that for you? Perhaps you can start a journal. Ask yourself some important questions and give yourself time to find the answers.

Maybe this is not the best answer, but in my life, if I don’t know what to do --I don’t do anything at all --while I keep looking for a solution. It’s like going to the beach each morning to see what comes in on the tide.

What do you other folks think? What do you think you should do Kim?

It is so nice to see you here Kim. We will look for you again. Bye for now.

Kathy

I'm right next door in Georgia! My husband is also a civilian working for the State Department in Iraq. My only son is also there. I feel your pain and can appreciate the how alone you must be feel. It is a huge sacrifice and know that you are contributing to your husband's mission by 'holding down the fort' here at home.