Replies to '02/13 Love Smart Island, Part 1'

I agree with all the other quotes about focusing on those of us who raised families, divorced or partners died, and now have to face the dating scene and all the changes that have taken place in the last 30+ years.  So many of the age appropriate men seem to be drawn to much younger attractive women.  How do we compete?

 I haven't seen this show yet - not sure if I am going to watch it or not.
I have been on my own for the past 7 years and divorced for the past two years- that's a whole show in itself.
I devoted myself to raising my son - who will be at home for a few more years yet. I live in a small rural community. I wasn't great at dating when I was younger and now that I'm in my early 50's I find it very discouraging. I won't go to bars. A lot of men back off when they find out that I still have a youngster at home. I've tried the online dating thing and it isn't working for me. It wasn't the best experience of my life.
Thanks for bringing this up.

Amen! I was going to ask the same thing. It seems everytime one of these shows is done it's about men and women in their twenties or early thirties. What about us primetimers who for one reason or another find ourselves alone again and either don't "remember" or know how to do the dating scene again? Come on Dr. Phil-where's our advice??

I'd like to know that, too.  

  

My mother is a 65-year-old widow with a lot of life left to live. She is in fairly good health and stays busy. She says she is doing fine on her own but I'd love for her to have a nice guy to at least go to the movies with or enjoy dinner out. She has so much to offer the right man! 

I'm 48, have a busy life, and am not pretty like those in the show. Guys are visual creatures, it's their nature. But there are some real sweethearts out here just waiting for a chance!

Hey I'm a 50 year old male and find it hard to meet quality women also. But think about it. At least we are not 20 with all the insecurities and hopefully we know ourselves and what we want. I am trying the online dating but haven't really found what I am seeking yet. Hmmm I'm 50, 6'3", about 220#, bald and from Texas. I'm may not be as rich or as smart as the good Dr., but I ain't that bad either! LOL

Here I am separated in my mid 50s after 30 years of marriage and not knowing where to even begin. My friends talked me into signing up for an Internet dating site. I signed up and one month later, I have no hits. The men my age want women in their 30s and 40s. Get real... 

  

I don't want to hit the bar scene. I'm a successful accountant and I'm looking for love...obviously in all the wrong places! 

  

Help, Dr. Phil! 

80% of all 50-year-old women do not have a man in their lives, either as a result of divorce, widowhood or never-married. So it's not terribly realistic to expect to date at this age. These dating-advice shows focus on younger people because they are the ones who have dating as part of their life. But there is still lots of ways to have fun and adventure- getting together with girl friends, working to be better at your job, good literature or even taking in a show by yourself. But for 50 year olds- it's would be very rare if that included dating.