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February 13, 2006, 10:31 am PST

Having a Baby Has Changed My Life

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 I am 18 years old and I have a son that is 15 months old. I became pregnant with him when I was barely 16. I was terrified and depressed because i had no idea what I was going to do. My sons father and I decided that we could do this and that we were going to raise our child. So as time went on, I became more and more excited about having a child. Almost a month before my son was born my boyfriend and I moved in together and thats when I realized what he was really like. He wasn't the person that I thought he was. We had been dating for like a year and a half before I became pregnant and all that time he was pretending to be someone that he wasn't. I was scared because I didn't know what to do, he was really the only person I could depend on, so like a stupid teenager I decided to stay and deal with the problems and try to work things out for the sake of my child. That's when things got really bad, he became so controlling and manipulative he made me feel like I was nothing, like I didn't exist in his world. On the very few times we went out as a couple, he acted like he was embarassed of me because I was pregnant. I felt so dirty and ashamed because if he looked at me that way who else did? So as the last few months of my pregnancy went on, I just tried to remind myself that I would be having a child soon and I had to learn to act more mature and try my best to be the mother that my son deserves. Finally, that special day came and I went into labor at my best friends house. I just remember being so scared out of my mind I had no idea what to do, but my friends mother was there and she helped me a lot. My boyfriend didnt get there until we were on our way to the hospital. He was with his friends and didnt want to be bothered until it was almost time to have our son. He told me he hated  me and that I was a b. Words cant describe how much that hurt me. I couldn't believe that he could say that to me when I was in labor with his child!!  So after 24 hours of labor, 3 hrs of pushing, 4 epidurals that didn't work finally I had my angel baby by C-Section. I was really drugged up so I can't really remember seeing him for the 1st time, but I can remember his beautiful cry. it was the most beautiful thing I've ever heard. I finally started to get a clear head about an hour after the birth and that's when I finally got to hold my son. He was beyond beautiful, he looked up at me and it was like an instant connection, he knew I was his mother and I knew he was my son. It was the best day of my life. I love my son in so many different ways, he is the best thing that has ever happend to me. If it wasn't for him, I don't know where I would be. He is my angel baby. 

This guy is abusive, I sure hope you are not still living with him for if you are and he still treats you like dirt, it will continue. My children are wonderfula nd the most beautiful little girls I know, My husband and I are blessed and sometimes are speechless when it comes to how good we have it with our babies and thre is absolutley no way, my husband would treat me, his wife and the mother of his children like yours treats you, you owe it to your child to give him the best, loving and caring atmosphere that you can, remember, we teach people how to treat us, hope all is going well for you, you deserve to be treated with love, honor and respect and for the sake of your child, I hope this is happening.
 
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May 22, 2006, 2:57 am PDT

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Quote From: jmsamh2004

 I am 18 years old and I have a son that is 15 months old. I became pregnant with him when I was barely 16. I was terrified and depressed because i had no idea what I was going to do. My sons father and I decided that we could do this and that we were going to raise our child. So as time went on, I became more and more excited about having a child. Almost a month before my son was born my boyfriend and I moved in together and thats when I realized what he was really like. He wasn't the person that I thought he was. We had been dating for like a year and a half before I became pregnant and all that time he was pretending to be someone that he wasn't. I was scared because I didn't know what to do, he was really the only person I could depend on, so like a stupid teenager I decided to stay and deal with the problems and try to work things out for the sake of my child. That's when things got really bad, he became so controlling and manipulative he made me feel like I was nothing, like I didn't exist in his world. On the very few times we went out as a couple, he acted like he was embarassed of me because I was pregnant. I felt so dirty and ashamed because if he looked at me that way who else did? So as the last few months of my pregnancy went on, I just tried to remind myself that I would be having a child soon and I had to learn to act more mature and try my best to be the mother that my son deserves. Finally, that special day came and I went into labor at my best friends house. I just remember being so scared out of my mind I had no idea what to do, but my friends mother was there and she helped me a lot. My boyfriend didnt get there until we were on our way to the hospital. He was with his friends and didnt want to be bothered until it was almost time to have our son. He told me he hated  me and that I was a b. Words cant describe how much that hurt me. I couldn't believe that he could say that to me when I was in labor with his child!!  So after 24 hours of labor, 3 hrs of pushing, 4 epidurals that didn't work finally I had my angel baby by C-Section. I was really drugged up so I can't really remember seeing him for the 1st time, but I can remember his beautiful cry. it was the most beautiful thing I've ever heard. I finally started to get a clear head about an hour after the birth and that's when I finally got to hold my son. He was beyond beautiful, he looked up at me and it was like an instant connection, he knew I was his mother and I knew he was my son. It was the best day of my life. I love my son in so many different ways, he is the best thing that has ever happend to me. If it wasn't for him, I don't know where I would be. He is my angel baby. 

 Hello.I was 17 when I get my firsth baby boy.my boy is now 19month and second baby is 4month.
I would you like to write with me?e-mail is haukka118@hotmail.com

 


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