Quote From: trailguideI, too, married a man that needed a mother instead of a wife. Actually, he needed a banker! He felt like as long as he worked, he could buy anything he wanted. It didn't seem to dawn on him that he needed to work at a job that paid enough to make his payments. Boats $25,000 - trucks $30,000 - a semi to start his own business - $75,000 ,etc. I worked at a decent job making $40,000 a year and couldn't spend a dime on myself because I was making HIS payments! I made the house payments, bought groceries, etc. I laid awake many nights trying to figure out how to pay the bills. When I had had enough and filed for divorce, he ended up getting all the money in the bank because in Florida ANY martial debt has to be split! So yes, a man that won't work is worthless in my book. But a man that puts the family so far in debt is just as worthless! Good ridance to HIM AND Florida!
It's refreshing to see you did the right thing for yourself. You also did the right thing for him. Unfortunately, I have a close friend who went through a similar circumstance. She has her PhD, single mother of two children, saved to buy a nice home. Her husband? Worked part-time. Bought a new truck (using her credit), and she ended up driving his "so-so" car. He bought her a computer (using her credit without her permission), but then used the computer for himself, taking it with him when he left her. She took out a loan for their wedding and honeymoon - guess who's paying for that now? He told her she couldn't attend a Super Bowl Party because she "didn't know enough about football". Guess what? Pics have now surfaced of him at the party with another girl. NOW, after he finally left his wife (after cheating on her for most of their marriage), another woman has taken him in - he's living off her now! AMAZING!!
My rule?? Never date a man who has not been completely financially independent for at least 5 years and is actively employed. If he's not employed, he needs to be concentrating on finding full-time employment instead of getting into a relationship anyway.
