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February 14, 2006, 1:25 pm PST
dayjenny you've got the answer!!!!!!
Quote From: dayjennyI'm not sure Dr. Phil gave the best advice to the couple with the jealousy problems. As I was watching the girl watch her boyfriend converse with other women, I thought she went WAY overboard with her buzzing. I think Dr. Phil should have focused more on the girl and her problems and not on the guy. I think no matter what the guy does, the girl will be jealous - she will find some way to turn it around to be "bad".
I had the same problem for years. I was always so afraid of someone leaving me. Then after about a million of them did and I got used to just being "me", I wasn't so afraid of losing a man. I knew I'd be fine without them. Now I'm happily married and not jealous at all. My husband has female friends and I have male friends. We have a healthy relationship. The girl with the jealous problem really needs to be happy that she has a nice guy so willing to work with her on her jealousy. He seems to really love her and I kind of feel sorry for him because it seems like nothing he will do will ever be right for her. Being jealous is a reflection about how one feels about oneself. If you are insecure you are afraid that you don't have what you need to hold on to a loved one. You need constant reassurance and always worry that someone else is smarter, prettier etc. and that you will be left behind for this other person. And what is worse is that the neediness itself can drive someone away. Dayjenny you have found the answer. Now that you feel secure with yourself you don't worry about these things anymore. I've been there, done that too when I was very young, and also found the answer and have a wonderful, long term, great marriage. Best of luck and Happy Valentine's Day! Enjoy it with your loved one! JB
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