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February 14, 2006, 7:47 pm PST
 Quote From: celeste06 Oh, Dr. Phil....Dr. Phil...I’m so disappointed! Your Special tonight just didn’t help people like me! I guess I shouldn’t be surprised. See, I’m one of those "intelligent" women. (You know, the ones that playa’ from California doesn’t go for?) What a letdown - on Valentines Day of all days - and sitting here - by myself. All I got out of that, once again, was that you have to be attractive, not to mention young. Was there anything to learn for the average single woman like me who is from the general population? And what about the average, older, single woman?
And Paula Abdul? Look, I accept that people like Paula have problems with dating too but most of us don’t lead the charmed life she does.. Most of us aren’t hosting American Idol and most of us don’t look like she does. Come on, how do her dating problems, as a celebrity with the specific trust issues that entails, help the "average Joe" or "Jo-anne" like me? Pleee-ze! The men with whom she was paired up were gorgeous and obviously above the norm. They wouldn’t give average looking women a second look. Who are you trying to kid here?
I’m happy you were able to help Paula and talk that other lady out of a bad relationship with the playa’ from California but as a single person in my 40s, I didn’t get a thing out of that, not a thing. It only made me feel worse about myself and here you are telling us all the time to project a positive image! How can one find that "positivity" within oneself when this kind of show reinforces existing social values all over again?
Nope, Dr, Phil, I’m happy for Paula but all I got out of this was that to be over 35 and average looking is a major obstacle. I’m still on my own. Thanks anyway. Nope, Dr, Phil, I’m happy for Paula but all I got out of this was that to be over 35 and average looking is a major obstacle. I’m still on my own. Thanks anyway.
Celeste, I agree. Being over 35 and not a perfect 10 is not easy. It does seem that most guys our age are looking for younger, very attractive females. I'ld love to see the show done with average women. |
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February 14, 2006, 9:16 pm PST
Quote From: celeste06 Oh, Dr. Phil....Dr. Phil...I’m so disappointed! Your Special tonight just didn’t help people like me! I guess I shouldn’t be surprised. See, I’m one of those "intelligent" women. (You know, the ones that playa’ from California doesn’t go for?) What a letdown - on Valentines Day of all days - and sitting here - by myself. All I got out of that, once again, was that you have to be attractive, not to mention young. Was there anything to learn for the average single woman like me who is from the general population? And what about the average, older, single woman?
And Paula Abdul? Look, I accept that people like Paula have problems with dating too but most of us don’t lead the charmed life she does.. Most of us aren’t hosting American Idol and most of us don’t look like she does. Come on, how do her dating problems, as a celebrity with the specific trust issues that entails, help the "average Joe" or "Jo-anne" like me? Pleee-ze! The men with whom she was paired up were gorgeous and obviously above the norm. They wouldn’t give average looking women a second look. Who are you trying to kid here?
I’m happy you were able to help Paula and talk that other lady out of a bad relationship with the playa’ from California but as a single person in my 40s, I didn’t get a thing out of that, not a thing. It only made me feel worse about myself and here you are telling us all the time to project a positive image! How can one find that "positivity" within oneself when this kind of show reinforces existing social values all over again?
Nope, Dr, Phil, I’m happy for Paula but all I got out of this was that to be over 35 and average looking is a major obstacle. I’m still on my own. Thanks anyway. As a happy, older married man (45) I thought I would express my opinions. I think that a lot of single people (both male and female ) are totally unrealistic in the expectations of their potential dates, as far as appearance is concerned.
As a male ,I can honestly say ,we as a gender tend to be more visually attracted to the opposite sex than women, but not by as much as women would have us believe. I believe that it is important to find the person you are dating to be relatively attractive. Yet I think a single person has to be honest with themselves as far as their own physical appearance and look for someone in their own "league" ,so to speak.
You gave the impression that you are an average looking person, yet you seem annoyed or angry when you said,"Pleee-ze! The men with whom she was paired up were gorgeous and obviously above the norm. They wouldn’t give average looking women a second look. Who are you trying to kid here? " I don't think that Dr Phil was trying to kid anyone. What happened, is what is to be expected. Not many people will date people less attractive than themselves, yet almost everyone expects to find some one to date that is way more attractive than themselves. This is unrealistic and leads to much heartache and loneliness.
I also think that another part of the problem is becoming "intimate" before marriage. It is a well known fact , that a lot of men pretend to "love" to get sex while women tend to give sex to get love. While having sex before marriage doesn't prove he doesn't love you , a man willing to wait for sex until marriage is a "definate" sign that he loves you. Women are definately their own worst enemy. I truly feel for your pain and hope you find someone that you can love and that will respect you, like all people deserve!!
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