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February 15, 2006, 11:39 am PST
Confused
Quote From: melola As long as women think we are not entitled to have physical preferrences in a mate but men are,we will make all men feel they are entitled to "supermodels" no matter how plain because they are born with a penis!
Why is it that attractive girls are considered bad if they want an attractive male and actually talked out of what they want because they are being shallow. But attractive men and not so attractive men are "excused" for the same thing because that's what guys do?
My boyfriend and I watched this show and he is the one who said those 3 "Average Joe's" are single because they feel they do not have to settle for an "Average Jane" b Society tells them so. Had the roles been reversed and those 3 men had dates like Roseanne Barr, Brett Butler, and Conchita Farrel (two and a half men) those guys would have been even more shallow than the women and they would not be as willing to accept a woman who is at their level or less attractive because she has a great personality.
Yet we sit there and feel sorry for the men(who cannot find a date because they are too picky) and berate women who take care to look good and stay fit because we as woman are so needy of men, any man is good. So what if he is overweight,does not take care of his appearance or you are not attracted to him. MAKE YOURSELF FEEL ATTRCATION or lie to yourself that it does not matter to you.
Watched the Oprah show yesterday .When the phychologist said as women we are taught to accept any man because it is considered better to have a so-so man,than no man at all so women settle for anything with a penis or a man who can provide her with nice things because we are taught to I felt really bad. I watched Dr. Phil try to convince the women that they are bad for feeling they need attraction.
Are we as women not entitled to feel physical attraction to our mates or is that a luxury only men have?
I know men who are overweight,hairy,old,bad teeth ,bad personalities and they all expect to get hot women. But lord knows ignore the ugly ones as though they are invisible. Tons of single "Average Janes" can tell you the reality of this.
A couple of weeks ago my boyfriend set up a co-worker who complains constantly he cannot find a nice girl. This guy is about 40 lbs overweight, bad hair,glasses, not so great set of teeth. He was set up with a girl who is attractive though about 15lbs heavier than she should be. We thought we were doing him a favor as she was cuter than he deserved. Guess what! He had the nerve to be upset with the date and pulled my boyfriend aside in the middle of dinner because the girl was not attractive enough for him! He thought her cute, but needs to lose weight! This is typical however with most "Average Joe's"
Even the show "Average Joe" berrated the beautiful women for not looking into a man's heart and being shallow. Meanwhile all of the average Joe's were going gaga for her looks and figure and all claiming to be in love with her(Who is shallow??). The audiance feels sorry for the Joe's ignoring the fact they are as shallow as can be meanwhile wanting attractive women to look past their shortcomings. Would these aaverage Joe's be so hot and sweet to an
Average Jane" I think we all know the answer. I wanted to take a moment to correct some of the misconceptions that seem to be shared by sooooo many of those posting on the boards. (1) The Love Smart Island wasn't a "singles" retreat, mixer or anything like that. People spent most of their time waiting for the next segment that had to be shot and didn't really get to mix and mingle. (2) Most of the guests didn't get to "pick their dates." As a matter of fact, only the 3 bachelors got any sort of choice in the process. So, it's rather unfair to berate people for not choosing certain bachelors or being too picky or whatnot... they had almost no choice in the matter. (4) Reality vs. TV: You only saw a small, small fraction of the total video shot. All of the guests on the island are actually really wonderful people with amazing personalites.. they are quite caring, thoughtful and kind. If you saw some things in the minute and a half of video on each person that you didn't like, bear in mind that we all have issues... we all have things we need to work on... whether it's our height, weight, looks, whatever... part of the reason most of the guests were there was to get help with those issues that created problems with their dating life. Also, many of the truly wonderful moments between the guests or what they had to say about each other.... never made it out of the studio's cutting room. (5) Personal preferences: again, as for the average joes, the single women, etc. You don't know whom they would date or wouldn't. I don't recall (since I was one of them) any of the guys ever saying or feeling like they wouldn't date or go out with an "Average Jane"... actually, they all said quite the contrary. As for the ladies, after getting to know them they all are quite wonderful people and not the shallow images that they were made out to be. I could go on and on and on but I will finish with the point that everyone is looking for their perfect match. For those out there that have found them... amen. If you want to offer advice or your insights then that is always helpful. But please don't berate or belittle people based on a uber small glimpse of them on what was a highly edited TV show. We all have feelings... tearing people down isn't going to help them or anyone else fix thier issues,etc. Anyhoo, sorry for the oh so long ramble. All the best....
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