Since I am new to the site I'm not sure what you've been through, tried, etc. I was married to a fellow age 27 that threatened suicide if I left him for over three years. It has to be much worse being your child. Is he on any kind of antidepressant? Is there a diaganosis? How long has he been in this state? Have you been treated for depression? WOW. I so much feel for you. The pressure on you must be trumendous. Feeling responsible for someone else's life is HUGE!
I am somewhat reluctant to tell you what I finally did with the advice of his therapist. I told him to go ahead. Once I stopped letting this control me, his treats became less frequent and he never went through with it, even through our divorce.
More recently I went through my own bout of feeling suicidal, it's is the worst emotion I ever experienced. It is a dark, dark place. My greatest deterent was how it would have efected my only child.
I so much wish I knew more about your situation.
I have seen what suicide can do to families. Unfortunately it is so devastating and the guilt is so hard to overcome... I hope you son does not follow through.
I was glad to read your response. Were you able to speak with your son's therapist?
Did she make any sort of recomendations other than counseling? I guess we all know that no matter how much we want to impact someone's life until they are ready our efforts may go by the wayside. I can only guess how this is disrupting your life and your family's. I think the other person's response was insightful. Truth being I don't know what I would do if my son seemed determined to kill himself.
I have a girlfriend who's brother did kill himself, unfortunately he kept his depression under wrap. I don't believe he ever reached out for help. He left a lonely young wife behind that 3 years later took her life thinking that it would reunite them.
The woman in your son's life must have really done a number on him. Does he have a job? Can he function? His pain is apparently very deep, it is such a curious thing that he makes plans and tells you about it. Life is a balancing act much of the time. I just wish I had some magic words to give you that would comfort you.
