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February 16, 2006, 9:32 am PST
 Quote From: saemae About Madison; I have never had a problem with moms who enter their kids into natural beauty pageants. Note I said "natural beauty". I think it is a great esteem booster and it teaches kids to learn how to take rejection along with winning. It becomes a problem when you start teaching your child that, as long as you change every single thing about yourself, you're a winner. Fake tans and fake teeth do not belong on elementary school children. A preschooler should not own stock in Estee Lauder. And I don't know any middle-class families who have ever spent 64 grand on a "hobby", cumulative or otherwise. Mothers must be careful not to make their distorted obsessions their kids' nightmares. And the fact that moms are threatening to kill each other because they are jealous of the competition is just wrong. Most importantly, please stop posting these dolled-up photos of your kids on the internet. It gives me the creeps knowing that many perverts have performed sex acts on themselves looking at that child's picture. Ewww, why isn't that mom completely torn apart by that?
Brooklyn is a cutie. She reminds me of a little girl that is currently co-hosting a PBS show called Zoom. Unfortunately, there are many, many blonde haired, blue eyed girls out there. Her chances are pretty slim. As cute as she is, there are no distinguishing characteristics to her. Nothing makes her stand out. I don't have high hopes for her chances. A casting agent probably gets a thousand pictures just like hers every day. I hope she succeeds, but her mom needs to realize the odds aren't good. I mean, how many kids do I see walk out of my own daughter's school every day that look just like Brooklyn? At least fifty, and it's a smaller school. I wish her luck anyway.
Hunter is just charming. He's going to take massive flack for being in pageants, and there's nothing that mom can do about it. You can't change society's views, no matter how hard you try. If he likes it, and he's willing to put up with the crap, I say let him. I just have a bad feeling that Mom's own disturbed visions for him are affecting her hearing where his wishes are concerned. Take the time to find out if he is willing to get made fun of for his "hobby". And other people need to realize that this mom is no different than the mom who makes her son play football even though he hates it because it makes him a "man". That's a stereotype. Nobody should do anything they don't want to do.
I hope all the moms make sensible decisions and carefully weigh the consequences before they proceed. Think of the future of these adorable children and the affects of their pasttimes. Take your own thoughts and opinions completely out of the picture. Only then can you make an intelligent decision concerning your kids. Good luck, no matter what you decide! I thank you for your compliment about my son I think he is pretty charming and adorible myself :-) The thing that confuses me is the comment about my "disturbed visionfor him". If you will read back through my posts you will see that I have allowed pageants until the last one he did because his enjoyment of being on the stage was outweighing my dislike and angst over the toxicness of things that I was experianceing.
He actually has taken his crown to school for his NAG the vote Campaign he did the week before the presidental elections he also visited the Veteran's nursing home, 3 other nursing homes in the area, the City's Halloween celebration and helped out at Wal-mart's Haunted house giving out stickers to kids that promised to "Nag The Vote".
When he took his crown to school the number of boys that wanted to try it on and have thier pictures taken with it was equal to the number of girls BUT that is because at the age they are now kids do not judge eachother based on gender biases the way adults do.
No he will not being doing anymore pageants and not because I am givign into some archic gender bias it is because I feel the people that are toxic and mean spirted are too much a negitive to continue as it may be heard or experessed to him one day.
He quit ballet becuse he had advanced to a level that required far more seriouseness to his classes than he wanted to give but he still continues to dance to musicals on TV and music playing anywhere he is just one of those kids that likes to dance for the joy of dance.
He also fly's his Ohpa's Piper Cherokee Warrior, plays soccer, T-ball (which he is good at but finds boring right now with the whole standing around waiting his turn thing), he loves doing science experiments and at the time of the tapeing we had to make sure not to film in the area where several of our science experiments were still laying outon the floor. He is the youngest member of our local art league and has won awards for his art to include being now at the state level of the National PTA's Reflections contest for his photographs of the Moon.
He has been modeling and acting for quite a while but I would not say that he is going to be or is a Star in that sense he has done some work and he has a pretty good booking rate. For someone to thingk thier kid is going to be a star other than in thier eyes does not know or understand the true nature of the acting and modeling world. He has not booked jobs where the casting director told me after the audition how "professional" he was because as Dr. Phil has stated before child actors and models are window dressing they book jobs based most times on what the parents look like or the age range, hair color or ethnicity of the part. That is something that sets kids up for failure in this industry the precieved notion that they can make it big or whatever just cause they are cute and have a great personality. My son knows that if he wants to do an audition all he can do is do his personal best and enjoy himself book the job or not.
If I had the ignorance to put on my child the pressure to become something you are so correct that that would be deluded. Right now in this moment he is going to grow up to be a (take a deep breath ;-) a FiremanAstronaughtAnimalDoctorHelecopterAndPlanePilotRockStarDancerTeacher and two or three things that come in and out of the mix :-) My only goal for my son is that he grows up experimenting, learning, growing and experiancing as many things as I can allow him to experiance that he wants to try.
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