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April 9, 2006, 4:46 pm PDT
Don't waste your time and effort
Quote From: tiffie44I am 30 years old and I have a 5 year old boy who is the love of my life, but thats it I strive for adult conversation I want adult company I cant take being single anymore I have not had areashinship in 3 years I feel because I am 30 and with a 5 year old I am ready to begin my life I am ready to get into a reashinship and then maybe down the road have it leed to marrage. I mean I do hang out with friends and whatnot but its not the same I feel I need the romance I need soft touches and if I did this with my friends I would be one lonly girl. I also feel I am single is cause I amnot askinney girl altho I am not ablimp either but I feel this hinders me from meeting anyone and I know I could change this like maybe people have said to me "just loose weight" but I think "why"?? Why would I want to loose wait to find someone? I want to find someone who accepts me for who I am not cause I lost 80 pounds and even if I did find someone who would like me cause I lost 80 pounds that would be the only reason they looked twice at me.....cause I looked good.....I dont want someone like that I find those type of people very vein and I dont want any part of anyone who would be like that. But then I am tired of being single.....Can we say Catch 22 batman?? Don't try to lose weight in order to get a man. Of course, you can do it for yourself. However, losing weight in no way gaurantees finding a good guy. I know from personal experience. At over 300lbs, I figured that my major stumbling block to finding a partner was my weight. I've lost 160lbs and I'm not any closer to my goal. The kicker is that I'm not even unattractive and in fact most people tell me that I'm very pretty. Sometimes I think that one of the other main issues is that I'm a divorced mom of two children. I can't and wouldn't want to change that, so I guess I'm just going to be stuck in SingleLand with everybody else who has similiar problems.
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